Marriage advice you need to hear
IF today’s divorce statistics are anything to go by, marriage is seeming like an enter-and-exit quickly kind of experience, much like the meme with the new bride calling her mom to urgently come fetch her from the husband who expects her to do domestic duties.
The Coco Chanel quote, “As long as you know men are like children, you know everything,” perfectly sums up some women’s experiences in the institution, and the roles they’re relegated to, often unexpectedly.
And these women are warning others that it’s not all it’s cooked up to be, being the Mrs.
What advice would you give to a young woman on the cusp of making the big decision to do the holy matrimony dance? We asked married women, and this is what they said.
Adanna, married 7 years
It can be a beautiful thing to have that companionship, to raise your children right, and to always have a partnership, but soon enough he will begin to take you for granted — a sure thing, like the bedspread in the drawer that’s always there. You have to work on yourself and have lots of friends outside so you don’t get jaded by all that, because it can be distressing to be looked on as just a piece of furniture in the house.
Camilla, married 14 years
Do you want to raise your children, and another adult child? Marriage by itself has many benefits legally and financially, but think of your husband as having a grown child with special needs. It’s a burden of care that will always be your responsibility.
Bria, married two years
Don’t do it! Truly, you can do so many other things with your life than to be tied to a man. Travel, see the world, date plenty. Marriage is a scam and all men do is ruin your good cookware.
Chandice, married 17 years
Do it when you’re older. Have your fun when you’re young with as many men as is prudent. But don’t commit until you’re past 30. It will only be joyful at that time, when you’re more mellow.
Gail, married 12 years:
I buy a new car and trade it in every two years before I need to repair anything major. I wish society allowed this kind of trade-up in relationships too. If it wasn’t such a hassle to change names and such, and so expensive, I would treat my men the way I treat my cars.
