“You my baby mama. I won”

ENTERTAINERS Cardi B and Offset’s public brawl on the Internet last week provided much entertainment for people who relish gossip, but in the middle of the cuss-out came misogyny, that many women have called Offset out on. After accusing his soon-to-be ex-wife of cheating while she was pregnant, and having her all but confirm that it was her body and her business, Offset responded on X with, “U will be calling me after couple months, u my bm I won” (you’re my babymother, I won) which ticked several people off.

Labelling his statement as misogyny, many people commented that women can never win when it comes to men, as even in marriage, insecure men will see impregnating a powerful woman as a way of silencing her, and diminishing her worth.

And it’s not just celebrities who deal with this issue; the women below list the times when misogyny was the name of the game with their men.

Michelle, 35:

Two days after having a C-section, he was already commenting negatively on my post-pregnancy body, wondering how “bad” my scar would look, and how long I would take to lose the pregnancy nose, and what his friends and family would say when they saw that my “looks” were “gone”. It was worry that literally kept him up at night.

Lisa, 40:

He said I was too sensitive and too hormonal when I would cry in frustration because the baby wasn’t sleeping, and said he had married me because I looked like a good, strong, childbearing woman, and he couldn’t understand what all the drama was about.

Sabrena, 37:

My mom came to help for a few weeks, and after she left — my baby wasn’t even six weeks yet — he was already stressing me about returning to my household responsibilities, without acknowledging that physically, I just didn’t feel ready.

Liz, 24:

The entire burden of childcare was on me, even though we had discussed it all prior to the pregnancy. He continued his life as before, going out with friends on Fridays and playing ball on Saturdays, boldly sending the message that parenting was my duty, and we weren’t equal partners.

Joy, 30:

Everyday I have to pick up both kids from school at 2:00 pm, to hell with the fact that I’m a manager at my job and need to set an example by working full hours. He assumed that I would, or should, prioritise motherhood, without considering my ambitions or desires.