THE term discipline comes from the latin word “disciplinare”, which means “to teach”. However, many people associate the word with punishment, which falls short of the full meaning of the word.

Discipline, properly practised, uses a multifaceted approach, including models, rewards, and punishments that teach and reinforce desired behaviour. Through discipline, children are able to learn self-control, self-direction, competence, and a sense of caring.

According to parentstoolshop.com, discipline is different from punishment because it teaches children to learn from their mistakes rather than making them suffer for them. In fact, imposing suffering actually shifts the focus from the lesson that needs to be learnt to who is in control. As a result, punishment focuses on the parent being responsible for controlling a child’s behaviour, rather than the child controlling his/her own behaviour, which is the focus of discipline.

Disciplinary tips for parents

* Demonstrate a unified force when it comes to discipline. If not, children may learn how to exploit these differences.

* Rules should be few, but simple. Punishment should be logical or a natural consequence of the misbehaviour.

* Consistency is important, however flexibility is sometimes a good thing, especially when dealing with older children.

* Don’t yell, keep calm.

* Praise your child.

* Be specific about what kind of behaviour you expect from your child.

* Avoid long-distance communication, for example, yelling from across a room.

Source: Youth Opportunities Unlimited.