Need and oppression starveth in thy eyes,

Contempt and beggary hangs upon thy back,

The world is not thy friend.

Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet V, 1

That above quote could very well apply to women who have no love, no sex, no man. And who better to say it than the romantic Romeo. Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo? At least Juliet had her Romeo, she had a man, her man, and whatever problems, trials, tribulations, unhappiness… and happiness that they may have had, at least they had each other to share them with. This is not always the case. I am learning more and more of women who have no men, never had a man, and have no intention of ever having a man. For some, it’s just plain bad luck, bad ways, bad decisions, bad choices, bad character, or dem just salt. While for others it’s their choice to never have a man or be with a man, ever, in this life or in the next. They will leave this world the same way that they entered it, and never know the joys, passion, the pleasure or pain of having a man. Their mantra is, no love, no sex, no man. This phenomenon we will examine right after these responses to the little pricks.

Tony,

My girlfriends and I were having the same conversation last week in regards to men and their penis size, and it occurred to me that the only persons that have a problem with penis size are the men. We all agreed that it’s not the size that matters, but rather the performance. You could have a bazooka and not know how to fire it, while on the other hand, your peanut may pack a punch. So some men need to understand that women don’t care about the size, all we care about is the performance. At least my girlfriends and I do anyway.

Tresha

Teerob,

If you want to understand men’s obsession with their penis size, you have to be able to understand a nuclear arms race. This is exactly what men’s obsession with their penis is all about. Men try to get it to be as big as possible, it’s almost like the cold war between America and Russia, each side engaging in constantly trying to make more and more nuclear weapons. It is the same way in which men are constantly trying to build up the size of their penis. For most men, their penis is like the eagle with two heads, i.e. being divinely man and divinely God.

Keffery Williams, New York, N.Y.

Tony,

I had to laugh when I read your article. Do you know that there is a restaurant in Beijing, China that has only penis on its menu? Oh yes. Jamaica has its fascination with bull and ramgoat testicles and penis in soup, but this restaurant serves nothing but penis from a wide array of animals. So all you ladies who say that you’ve never put one in your mouth, go to Beijing and eat to your heart’s content. So Tony, that dyslexic nurse who was told to prick the man’s boil, maybe she used to work in that restaurant. You are what you eat, they say.

Norman Paramus, New Jersey

I am discovering daily, and nightly, that there are women who have never tasted the sweet nectar of love, felt the powerful passion and pleasure of sex, never been with a man. The question has been asked, “Is it better to have loved and lost, or never to have loved at all?” Many women fall into the latter category, as they have never loved at all. Why, you may ask? Many of those women are beautiful, smart, educated, and no,no,no, they are not attracted to other women either. It’s just that they never saw the need to become involved with a man. Many seem contented, happy even, but perhaps in their case, ignorance is bliss. For some, it’s because they saw the problems and heartaches that their mothers went through, and vowed never to have that experience. For others, it’s because of an early experience with men that turned out badly, making them declare, “I will never get involved with another man as long as I live, never, for all man is worries.” I spoke to some of these women, and when I delved into the depths, the core of their being, I sensed an anger in some of them. A few had actually been with men before, but have now sworn off them. When I asked, “But what about sex, don’t you have urges?” One response was, “Well, all the men that I have been with never knew what they were doing anyway, so what’s the point?” She has now decided to spend the rest of her days living without a man. For others who never had a sexual experience, it’s difficult or almost impossible to try and explain what they were missing. They invariably reply, “So what’s the big deal about sex anyway…it’s nothing that I can’t live without? After all I’ve gone without it for years, so I’m not missing anything.” When I try to explain the joys of passion, the thrills of orgasm, and the warmth of basking in the afterglow, I’m met with more intellectual argument. “Oh sex is overrated and everyone is making a big deal about nothing,” they say. Maybe it’s fear on their part, but they do convince themselves that they can do without, they are fine without, so they will continue to go without.

I put forth the question, “Do you know what happens to a woman’s body that’s deprived of sex?” The body part or parts I can’t speak for, you’d have to ask a doctor that, but I do know that the mind is affected. For a woman without sex is usually miserable and cranky. Oh, some may mask it well, but the misery is deep rooted and often comes out in heated arguments that invariably curse men. It is a scientific fact that women who are sexually satisfied, and I mean completely sated sexually, are never miserable, never in a bad mood and always cheerful. It’s no accident that old time people always said of women who fall in this category, “It’s because she has no love, no sex, no man, why she is so miserable.” That’s why if and when they finally get something, or get a good man, their countenance changes.

But let’s leave sex and move on to love. Many people still confuse the two, even women, who often think that because a man has a lot of sex with them it means that they love them. Big mistake, but it’s a start, they assume, as sex may lead to love. Men value sex, women value love; men love sex, women give sex to get love; men speak love to get sex; women want to hear love, men want to feel sex. Where does it begin and where does it end? My friends say that it begins and ends with marriage, where the sex begins with “I do,” but ends after a few years with, “I don’t.” But maybe they’re just being cynical. Still, how can anyone live without love? Love brings so much pleasure, and sure it brings pain too, but no pain, no gain. How can someone go through life and never ever feel the pleasures that love bring? To me it doesn’t matter how long that love may last, or how fleeting it may be, that is irrelevant. At least you can look back and say, “I have loved, and I have been loved.” It’s the feeling of having your heart skip a beat beat when that person is near, or hearing his voice on the phone, or you can’t wait until he comes home and holds you in his arms. Hey, I’m not waxing romantic here, but women do love that sort of thing. It’s the feeling of belonging, not being owned, but being a part of someone else’s life. That’s why many women, as soon as they meet a man and fall in love, they give their all to him and refer to him as ‘My man.’ Love affects your life and turns it upside down, and what a roller-coaster ride it can be. And yet, there are women who have never experienced this joy. Some don’t even believe in love, calling it juvenile foolishness. But I pity those people, for there is no greater feeling than love, and until that tsunami knocks you off your feet and leaves you gasping for more, you have not lived. Sadly I know many women who have never experienced this emotion, and go as far as to swear that it will never catch them. “Love is for fools and romantic idiots. I am practical, I have my plans, and I’m going to stick to them.” All this, from women still in their late twenties and early thirties.

No man? No man! I can’t believe it. There are women who have never felt a man’s arms thrown around them, never been hugged, never had his big muscular leg flung across her body in the dead of night. There are women who have never been squeezed by a man’s loins or felt the burning desire of a man who wants them. There are women who have never been there, and have no intention either. I can understand a woman who has had her heart broken by such a man, and is now afraid. But I can never comprehend a woman who has never had that experience and then goes as far as to denigrate it. It is said that nature abhors a vacuum.Their lives are devoid of love, lust, passion…unfulfilled, but you can’t tell them that, for they will argue with logic and intellectual skill that you cannot match. But the bottom line is, they have no sex, no love…no man, and that is sad. More time.

seido1@hotmail.com

Footnote: Watching the weather unfold is fascinating, and if it wasn’t so dangerous to those being affected, it would make pleasurable viewing. It’s amazing how modern science can track hurricanes with a probable path and precision that would make an air traffic controller envious. Tropical Storm Tomas did exactly what the experts said it would do as it moved westwards, took a pause, then went north and then north east, curling back almost in a U turn. And yet there are people who still aren’t satisfied and are ignorant and ungrateful. Some folks even cursed, saying how they prepared and they storm didn’t come, leaving them with so much groceries and stuff. “What fools these mortals be,” said the Greek gods. We must be thankful and also give a prayer for the less fortunate. Watch the Weather channel and learn, it shows our dynamic world in all its glory.