The fight against cancer is not a lonely one, there are several organizations and individuals willing to take up the mantle and join your fight. Most persons will tell you, early detection is key so you should get regular screenings and check ups just in case. However the harsh reality is cancer affects us all.

In everything we should always remember a good support system around you, persons who encourage, care and strengthen in time of need. Having a support system for those diagnosed with cancer is very important and may vary depending on circumstance, the little things do count and to keep it simple support is just being there.

Helpful tips when supporting a friend

Although each person with cancer is different, here are some general suggestions for showing support:

Ask permission. Before visiting, giving advice, and asking questions, ask if it is welcome. Be sure to make it clear that saying no is perfectly okay.

Make plans. Don’t be afraid to make plans for the future. This gives your friend something to look forward to, especially with the sometimes long and drawn out cancer treatment.

Be flexible. Make flexible plans that are easy to change in case something comes up or your friend needs to cancel or reschedule.

Laugh together. Be humorous and fun when appropriate and when needed. A light conversation or a funny story can make a friend’s day.

Allow for sadness. Do not ignore uncomfortable topics or feelings.

Check in. Make time for a check-in phone call. Let your friend know when you will be calling. Also, let your friend know that it is okay not to answer the phone.

Offer to help. Many people find it hard to ask for help. However, your friend will likely appreciate the offer. You can offer to help with specific tasks, such as taking care of children, taking care of a pet, or preparing a meal. However, if your friend declines an offer, don’t take it personally.

Follow through. If you commit to help, it is important that you follow through on your promise.

Treat them the same. Try not to let your friend’s condition get in the way of your friendship. As much as possible, treat him or her the same way you always have.

Talk about topics other than cancer. Ask about interests, hobbies, and other topics not related to cancer. People going through treatment sometimes need a break from talking about the disease.