When

you met her, she kept talking about her best friend ‘Jules’, and you naturally

assumed Jules was short for ‘Julia’ and paid it no mind. Turns out her best

friend is actually ‘Julian’, has a 5 o’clock stubble, is 6 feet 3, has a great

job, dresses well, works out religiously and has a face that you find on a JC

Penny catalogue cover. You are not pleased.

This dude is everywhere; takes her everywhere when you have work or are unavailable; she vents to him about your relationship which seriously upsets you and she goes out more often with him than she does with you. At first, you thought that maybe he was a gay best friend, but then you realise he is a bonafide chick magnet. However, he does not have a girlfriend because he is always with your girl.

So,

what exactly are you unhappy about? Well, aside from him spending more time

with her than you do, he calls her anytime he feels like, and she will drop

whatever she is doing to take his call or hang out with him. It makes you

wonder if she subconsciously would prefer him being in your position.

You

are also sceptical of his true intention, as for you, he seems so invested that

you wonder if he is trying to sabotage your relationship with her so that he

can swoop in, save the day and be her ‘Mr Right’.

You come from the ideology that men and women cannot just be friends and be so close because as a male, you believe that men do not really want just a friendship. They want more, but when they get that initial resistance from a girl or are immediately ‘friend-zoned’, they hang around and pretend to be friends until they see a moment of weakness or time of vulnerability and then they pounce. And because you feel this way, you will never be comfortable with him hanging around your girl.

When he comes around you watch him like a hawk and try to decipher every sentence or his body language to see if his actions match his words. But all of that intense scrutiny can get tiresome, hence here are a few words of advice to you: instead of watching him, trust your girlfriend. It does not matter if he has ulterior motives or not, it is her actions alone that should concern you, as she is the one that has the commitment to you. As long as she remains your woman, faithful and true, then the actions of others count for nought because her actions should tell you that she only has eyes for you.

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