WELCOME back! Today’s the first day of school after the summer break and for many tots this is their first day of kindergarten. Kindergarten is a big deal for both parents and kids, and below we provide a guide for getting through the first week from early childhood educator Karen Kirlew.

Focus on play first

Before you get into the phonics or maths books, focus on play and getting to know each other first. Ensure that your child is comfortable with their new teacher, the children sitting next to them, and the new environment. There’s ample time for learning numbers and shapes; the first week should be about breaking the ice and having fun.

No pressure

If your child is too shy to say good morning to the teacher and staff and still grabs at your skirt and cries when you’re trying to leave, don’t be too hard on them. Remember that when you’re in new situations you may feel overwhelmed too, so imagine what it’s like for a two, three, or four-year-old. Don’t apply too much pressure, just hug and reassure.

Sometimes all they need is a hug

Gently tell the teacher to back off if they insist that you leave your child to wail, especially on the first day. Being overwhelmed is normal, and no teacher should be telling you to leave and let your child cry, if they’re having a very difficult time. You should be allowed to hug and reassure them because, after all, it’s just kindergarten, not military enlistment.

Back to reality

Your child may be excited at the thought of wearing new uniforms and having new books and supplies, but that may get old when they realise that school isn’t just a one-day thing and they’ll have to go everyday. Try to guide them into the reality of this, even while you marvel at how cute they look in their school ‘fits.

Go over what they should know

By the start of K1 your child should recognise their name being called, and some children can even recite their name and last name when asked. They should also know who their parents are and know how to respond politely to basic questions like: How are you? and How old are you? If they do not, practise these with them.

If you haven’t yet told your child what to expect, do so now

Talk to your child about what kindergarten will be like in the weeks and months ahead to help them prepare for this big transition. You can also talk about what going to kindergarten was like for you as a way to show them that they can share their feelings about kindergarten and that you were once just like them too.

Discuss the day

When you pick them up, ask your children to tell you one new thing they did or learnt about in school that day, one thing they liked, and one thing that was difficult about school that day. Ask them who they played with and what games they played so they know that sharing with you is normal, and so you can create a routine for the future.