Women’s strange choices
The choices we make,
Dictate the lives we lead.
— Shakespeare
WE all have to make choices in our lives. Should we pick that one or not, choose that one, select that one or reject the other? It’s all a matter of mentally prioritising what we think is best for us at any given time.
These choices can be important for, as the quote above said, those choices can define the very lives that we lead, or even lead to our demise. Choosing to take that left turn instead of going right on that lonely country road can impact our lives forever.
Choosing to buy that SUV instead of the little car can have a great impact on our lives financially and change our future. Indeed, those choices are mostly influenced by ego, not logic, especially when it comes to choosing items of great value.
If you choose to buy that very large house that’s clearly out of your financial reach your life can be changed forever in a negative way, for you cannot manage the mortgage and high upkeep so you’ll have to give it up. If you had chosen the less expensive house you’d be able to live comfortably and enjoy peace of mind as you would have disposable income instead of struggling.
So, as you can see, that ego-filled choice of conspicuous consumption can lead to your downfall. The most important choice that we can make, though, is that of choosing a partner, for if you choose badly — pick up tack as they say — your life will be changed forever, especially if you’re a woman.
That’s where we’re going today, women’s choices, right after these choice responses to what I had to say about ‘Men at risk’.
Hi Tony,
What a sad state we have gotten into when young girls, some under the legal age of consent, vigorously pursue men for sex. Men who are found guilty, even if innocent of child molestation or rape, are despised by hardened criminals in prison. They will make your life a living hell. Are not all people innocent until proven guilty?
Dennis
Teerob,
I have been saying so for years that those women who falsely accuse men of improper sexual acts should be made to pay dearly for their indiscretions. That accusation can ruin a man’s life forever, and even cause his death if an angry mob decides to mete out jungle justice. That law should be called the Sex Lie Law.
Marlon
Eeny meeny miney moe, grab a ..…by his toe. Which one should I choose? I never really liked that little ditty as it had racial connotations, but I’ll use it to make a point here about having to choose. That is often the dilemma that we all experience as we make romantic choices throughout the course of our lives.
Now I’m not referring to short-term flings for there is no serious choice there; you simply pick, choose and refuse. What I’m referring to is when people choose a life partner, your forever lover.
Men seem to have it a tad easier, for they are guided by their visual senses, desire and libido. If she looks good, has sex appeal and turns him on he’ll make that choice over a woman who possesses none of those attributes. That’s why men feel proud when people say, “What a beautiful bride he chose.” Never will you hear, “What a brilliant bride he chose but she ugly bad.”
Women, though, ah women, they deal with choices differently and sometimes defy all logic and reason when it comes to choosing a man to settle down with. How often have we heard the term, “What the heck was she thinking when she chose him, she can’t see say is a wutless man?” or, “My word, she could do better than that.”
That’s because women’s brains are wired differently from men’s, and when they choose it seems to make no sense at all. A beautiful woman will choose a man who resembles a toad, making us wonder why. But she has her agenda.
We often see beautiful, educated, accomplished women who are immersed in the corporate world, choosing men who don’t seem fit to wash their car.
“Look who she pick up and married.”
We have seen women here and in foreign countries choose men who are convicted rapists, murderers, scammers, the dregs of society and marry them, even while they are still incarcerated (some on death row), and we shake our heads and wonder, “Why, why?”
We have seen bright women in the corporate world marry men who are 20 years younger than them, uneducated, ex-convicts, deportees, and we wonder about the choices that they make. But remember, a woman’s brain is wired differently than a man’s.
Perhaps the psychologists can explain why, for it certainly confuses those looking on. I have heard some women say, “Dem love young bwoy too much, dat’s why dem choose dem.”
In many cases that bad choice does not only define the life of the woman but also defines her death, for many times the subject of her choice ends up either physically abusing her or worse, killing her.
It’s a tired, worn script, a comedy of errors with a tragic ending, a romantic cliché that almost always ends the same way — badly. Do these women really think that the man will change after they have married them? Remember the leopard, remember the spots? They do not change, and yet the sad scenario continues.
Maybe it stems from loneliness and insecurity on the part of these women.
They’re getting up in age and men in their social circles, age bracket, and economic status do not want them so they choose the first man who shows them any interest, affection, love — real or imagined.
“No man my age wants a woman of my age, is young girls they want,” is what they say. Maybe it’s true, for a man of 50 will not choose a woman of 50 to marry, but select one many years younger.
There are older women who choose younger men, thinking deep down that the younger man really loves her for who she is and not what she has to offer. The same applies to the old man who chooses younger women. I have addressed this before.
But when a woman of 60 years old marries a man who is 40, we all know what the ramifications, implications, impossibility and ultimate outcome will be — disaster.
“Then she couldn’t see the crosses that would take her when she married that young boy?”
Words of warning fall on deaf ears, for a woman in love will heed no advice. Like I pointed out, the choices that women make often defy logic, and when the inevitable disaster occurs, the hue and cry is deafening.
“I warned her.”
“She wouldn’t listen to her mother.”
“All of her friends told her to leave young boy alone.”
Do you remember movie stars Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore? When he married her she was 15 years older than him — a train wreck waiting to happen — but she still chose him. After a while it reached its inevitable and logical conclusion, and he left her and married someone younger than him.
What do these older women think, that when they’re 60 and the guy is 40 he’ll be desperately in love with her and desire her constantly? Then when she hits 70 and he turns 50 he’ll want her even more? Then when she turns 80 and he’s still a sprightly 60 his desire for her will increase exponentially? Ladies, it’s not going to happen.
Put an 80-year-old naked woman beside a 30-year-old naked woman and see who the man of 60 is attracted to more. I didn’t make the rules, but it’s just the way it is.
Some may say that women who make those choices do so because of a power trip as they want to control a younger man, call the shots, dictate terms to him, control the finances. Others say that they want young boy sex. Who knows what the real reasons are?
What I do know is that women’s strange choices often end up in disaster.
More time.
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Footnote: Well, my documentary on Oliver Samuels, Call Him Oliver, was aired on TVJ, its platforms, and in Cayman on Independence Monday. Producing it was quite a challenge that I thoroughly enjoyed, and the positive feedback was extraordinary. Too often we do not afford our icons the accolades that they deserve while they are still with us. I hope that it’s a fitting tribute to Oliver, who has brought us so much joy over the years. I have so many people to thank, including CHASE Fund; the Ministry of Culture, Gender, Entertainment and Sport and Minister Olivia “Babsy” Grange; and McKay Security for financial support. The feature is one hour and 20 minutes long but could have been longer as there was so much to document. It was my honour and privilege to have worked on this very important documentary, and I give thanks.