Dear Editor,

The passing of former Miss Jamaica Universe contestant Tyra Spaulding, who is suspected to have died by suicide, has raised fresh concerns as to the extent to which family members, friends, and co-workers can prevent someone from killing himself or herself.

It is alleged that the former beauty queen contestant expressed signs of mental exhaustion on social media a few days prior to her passing.

Since the news of the unfortunate incident surfaced, some social media users have speculated that the young lady did not receive the support she needed; otherwise, she might have been among us a little longer. However, some of her friends have countered that stance, arguing that it was difficult to contact Spaulding despite their multiple efforts and the diverse strategies used.

Even though the police are still investigating the matter, I believe it is important to address the death by suicide phenomenon.

It can sometimes seem bizarre when certain people struggle with mental illness or depression. Why would beautiful, educated, and financially stable people take their own lives? Are their challenges so difficult they could not walk away from the temptation to remove themselves from the Earth? Why did they not seek help or counselling?

Similar to death and sickness, mental depression is no respecter of persons. It happens to people of all social classes. Additionally, suicidal ideation does not have any prescribed look. It is sometimes covered with make-up, bright smiles, bubbly personalities, and devotion to God.

I take mental health very seriously. Sometimes friends and acquaintances ‘joke’ about feeling suicidal, but I never allow it to slide. I always take time to follow up and listen to their experiences. I offer my advice and even recommend trained counsellors and psychologists that they could consult.

People are battling so many issues — such as low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, insecurities, trauma, loss, solitude, betrayal, among many others — that could lead them to contemplate suicide.

Some have been helped professionally, but they still proceeded to end their lives. In fact, many believe that it is in their family’s best interest for them to no longer be here.

It is sad, but even with outpouring love and support, some people will still die by suicide. It can leave a thick cloud of guilt and shame on families and friends, but once some people make up their minds, there is no amount of coercion or persuasion that can stop them. In fact, some have indicated they heard voices in their heads.

As a country we need to do more concerning mental health and wellness. In 2024, statistics showed that there were 67 reported cases of suicide in Jamaica, of which 61 were men.

We are also seeing an increase in cyberbullying that can result in suicide.

We must continue to create an environment in which it is normal for people to speak about mental illness without being judged or stigmatised. Additionally, more campaigns, mental health facilities, and resources are needed to help those who are vulnerable.

Let’s be our brother’s keeper. Today for me, tomorrow for you.

Oneil Madden

maddenoniel@yahoo.com