AS someone who has made some unwise relationship choices in my life, I can certainly help you avoid some of those mistakes. If you want better relationships in 2026, you can’t wait for it to just happen. Be intentional, proactive and strategic about the kind of men you want to attract, and the kind of partnerships you want to build.

Know your value, and own it The first step to attracting the right partner is knowing your worth. Men notice confidence and self-respect. When a woman understands her value, she communicates it without saying a word.

Studies show that women with strong self-esteem are more likely to attract partners who respect them and pursue long-term commitment.
Before 2026, take time to reflect: What do I bring to a relationship? What are my non-negotiables? The clearer you are about who you are and what you want, the easier it becomes to attract the right kind of man.

Focus on personal growth

Proactive women invest in themselves. This isn’t just about career or appearance, it’s about emotional, spiritual and intellectual growth.

Men are naturally drawn to women who are pursuing their purpose. Take a class, deepen your spiritual life, or start a passion project.

Understand what men truly value

Men often look for qualities beyond the superficial. While attraction matters, what really sustains a relationship is character, emotional stability and compatibility.

A woman who can communicate clearly, handle conflict with grace, and maintain a sense of self-worth, sends a signal: “I am a partner worth investing in”.

Be intentional in where and how you meet people

Proactive women don’t leave relationships to chance. I’m not sending you ‘manhunting’ but be proactive — attend events, join interest-based groups or participate in community and church activities where like-minded, value-driven men are likely to be. Be deliberate about who you invest time with.

Communicate clearly and with confidence

One of the biggest mistakes women make is waiting too long to set boundaries or express expectations. Being proactive means speaking your truth early and clearly.

Discuss your goals, your vision for the future, and your expectations. This doesn’t kill romance, it preserves it by ensuring alignment.

Maintain patience and discernment

A proactive woman evaluates, discerns, and waits on God’s timing. She trusts that the right relationship will align with her values, vision and season in life.

Proverbs 31 reminds us that a virtuous woman’s value is far above rubies. When you honour yourself and your standards, you naturally attract men who recognise your worth.

Be intentional, grow personally, communicate clearly, and never settle for less than you deserve. When you align your heart, mind, and actions, the right partner will be drawn to your light.

Marie Berbick Bailey

Marie Berbick-Bailey is a certified master life coach, women’s transformational coach, ordained minister, author, motivational speaker, wife, mother and big sister dedicated to empowering women to heal, thrive and walk in purpose. Connect with her at www.marieberbick.com, www.marieberbickcoach.com, or e-mail marieberbick@gmail.com