I grew up watching The Bold and the Beautiful religiously. Some of you just smiled because you know exactly where I’m going with this. Brooke — beautiful, passionate, successful Brooke — never seemed able to exist without a man. One relationship ended, and before the emotional dust could settle, another man was already in the frame. As a young woman I didn’t have the language for it then, but now I do: relationship hopping.

Relationship hopping is the habit of moving from one romantic relationship straight into another without taking time to heal, reflect or grow. And while it may feel like a solution to loneliness or heartbreak, it is often a short-cut to repeated emotional pain.

Let’s talk honestly about why women do this — and why it’s dangerous.

Many women hop because they fear being alone. Silence feels uncomfortable. Emptiness feels threatening. For some, validation has become addictive — being chosen feels like proof of worth. Others hop because they don’t want to sit with the grief of a failed relationship. Pain is easier to avoid than to process. And then there are women who confuse companionship with healing, hoping the next relationship will repair the damage the last one caused.

But unhealed wounds don’t disappear when a new man shows up. They travel with you.

Here are five dangers of relationship hopping every woman needs to understand.

1) You carry old baggage into new spaces

When you don’t heal, you bleed on people who didn’t cut you. Trust issues, bitterness, insecurity and fear don’t reset just because the name has changed. The new man ends up paying emotional debts he didn’t create. That’s unfair and unsustainable.

2) You repeat the same patterns with different faces

If every relationship ends the same way, the common denominator deserves a closer look. Relationship hopping prevents self-examination. Without reflection, you keep choosing the same type of man, just packaged differently. Different height, same habits. Different smile, same dysfunction and I can tell you about that! Been there. Done it!

3) You lose your sense of self

Jumping from relationship to relationship often means constantly adjusting yourself to fit someone else. Over time, you forget who you are when no one is texting, calling or choosing you. A woman who doesn’t know herself will tolerate things she should never accept.

4) You confuse attention with love

Attention feels good, but it is not love. A man liking you, wanting you or pursuing you does not mean he is healthy for you. Relationship hopping trains the heart to crave excitement instead of stability, intensity instead of intention. And that confusion leads to poor decisions.

5) You delay emotional maturity

Healing seasons mature you. They teach boundaries, discernment and self-respect. When you skip that season, you remain emotionally underdeveloped, no matter how old you are. Growth requires stillness, and relationship hopping avoids it.

So how do you fix this weakness?

First, embrace the pause. Singleness after a break-up is not punishment; it’s protection. Sit with your emotions. Grieve honestly. Ask hard questions about your choices and patterns.

Second, do the inner work. Counselling, prayer, journalling, mentorship, whatever helps you face yourself without filters. Healing is not glamorous, but it is necessary.

Third, redefine your worth. You are valuable even when no one is choosing you romantically. Wholeness does not come from a relationship; it qualifies you for a healthy one.

Finally, stop rushing God’s process. Loneliness is not an emergency. Being alone for a season is far less damaging than being repeatedly broken in relationships you were never healed enough to enter.

Brooke made for good television, but her life was exhausting to watch. Let her story be entertainment, not instruction.

A healed woman does not rush into love, she attracts it.

Rev Marie Berbick-Bailey is a certified master life coach, women’s transformational coach, ordained minister, author, motivational speaker, wife, mother and big sister dedicated to empowering women to heal, thrive, and walk in purpose. Connect with her at www.marieberbick.com, www.marieberbickcoach.com or e-mail marieberbick@gmail.com.

Marie Berbick Bailey .