Why are you not thinking of a long-term relationship with your current partner?

THEY say you shouldn't waste a person's time in a relationship, and if you aren't interested in long term, you should give them a chance to move on without you. But some of us enter long-term relationships without trying or meaning to — like when we have children and don't want them in a broken home, for financial reasons, or really, when we just get too comfortable. Ordinarily, this is not a problem, especially when there's an end goal of marriage in sight. But what happens when there's no intention on one party's part to proceed beyond the now with a partner?

We asked people, why are you not thinking of a long-term relationship with your current partner?

Marlon, 38:

She's an Aquarian and those women are simply evil. We've been together five years, and it has been the most interesting, loving, yet terrifying five years of my life. I figure that it's all fun and games now, but when I'm in my prime, she's the kind of woman who will snap on me. I've watched enough Lifetime to know to beware. Sometimes I catch her looking at me and I get scared. So we're OK now, but no way would I marry a woman who will probably harm me in my sleep, or use rat poison in my food when she gets mad.

Amarsha, 32:

I've watched him with our kids and, truthfully, he's just not the caring, focused partner that I'd want to spend my life with. While he's an OK dad, the devotion and ambition to be better are just not there.

Candy, 40:

I invested a lot in the relationship and in him, and now he's a flourishing businessman, but I just want more, someone who is on my level and in my league. He's OK as a boyfriend, but my husband needs to be more educated and more established in society.

Luke, 32:

The only thing she's interested in are nails and lashes and painting her skin, and not in anything progressive. She has my youth, yes, but right now she's not wife material.

Brittany, 27:

I can't stand his family and they have very strong genes, so the thought of procreating in that family terrifies me. Worse, they all have the same bad attitude — beggy-beggy and entitled. When he's around me he's different, but when he's with them it's crazy to watch. I watch them and imagine bringing a child into that, and I would never do that to a child. He has proposed and I accepted, but truly, I will cut any day now.

Keith, 42:

Simple: she's not a nice person. She's just one big faker and people don't know her true colours. She goes to church and everything, and you'd think we have the perfect relationship, but she's just a big green lizard, and I'm just there until our kid finishes primary school.


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