Waiting to exhale
TODAY I write from a very weary place in my soul — not depressed, just sick and literally tired. I am in a dilemma and what I have found is that I am not the only one who feels this way. This ‘supermom’ title I have acquired due to my workload, and trying to balance family and ME, is really getting to me right now. I so just want to move from this place I am in now and just look back and say ‘Thank God I have passed the worst’.
My current work situation is really draining me. I hate how little time I have for my family, much less me. Even simply finding the time to write this article has become a challenge. When I come in late at nights and even try to go on the Internet to do a few things for the Work.Life.Balance muminar that I am planning for November, I just fall asleep with the laptop in my lap.
I just wanted to share how I feel with the hope that I am releasing my feelings and that someone else who is reading this article will know they are not alone. The good thing though is that even in my ‘low’ state, I have a hope that these too shall pass. I know the kids will soon grow up and things won’t be so intense; I know my dreams will soon be fulfilled and so will be yours. All of you who really want to chart a different course and be more involved with your children, there is no problem with that because we are called to be mothers first before all our other tasks in life.
While I start making plans to ensure that I can be in a better position where I have more time for my family, I just dream about the day I get to exhale. However, I just want you all to know that we can exhale daily — we have to!
The thing is, we still have to maintain our own happiness, which I have found is a choice. We can choose to have a pity party or choose to maximise on all opportunities and be happy. Just go out, go to the country, or just listen to some motivational music or teaching. Read your Bible, challenge yourself to dig up the ‘I can do it spirit’ that lives in all of us.
When you feel like you can’t go on, don’t just stop! Follow the spirit which guides. Sometimes we just need to slow down. So cheers to us mummies getting some time to exhale.
T Talitha is a 28-year-old full-time wife and mother of three beautiful children. She is a business executive and an entrepreneur with a passion for sharing her life’s challenges to help encourage, inspire and empower other mothers. Do you have any stories you think other mothers can appreciate, any tips, suggestions or queries? We want to hear from you. Share your stories at allwoman@jamaicaobserver.com.
