Is sex really better after marriage?
MOST people who choose to wait for marriage to get intimate do so on moral grounds, a testament to their faith above all else. Many of them will also tell you that waiting was the best decision they could make, as intimacy within the marital union is much better than that which exists outside. It comes, they say, with more trust, less fear of diseases, and fewer issues with jealousy or troublesome exes.
On the other hand, those who choose to experiment before tying the knot will tell you that it is with experience, with testing the waters that one is able to choose wisely, and not yearn for more when they finally settle down, because they would have already experienced the green grass on the other side.
Which view works best for you? Is sex better after marriage? Is it more exciting? Or is this merely a ploy by the religious to sell their Bible-endorsed opium to the masses?
Markland 40 , married for 15 years:
Before marriage it was me trying to show off my sexual prowess. Now that I’m settled and married I get to enjoy it more, experiment more, and I’m not in a race to prove myself. It’s more lovemaking than hardcore sex.
Ronald 50, married 25 years:
Definitely better. You don’t have to declare a time and place. You can initiate it at any time because you live in the same house and you share the same bed and on top of it, being married means over time you would have had time to know what turns your partner on.
Lisa 35, married 10 years:
I’ll say yes and no. It can be great and it can be bad. Great in the sense that you’re not afraid to be yourself, you can initiate, there’s room for morning sex, you can sneak away, which is thrilling. Bad in the sense that you may get tired or while you’re having all the sex in the world you might be really unhappy and not at liberty to take a break from the situation. Simply put, the butterflies die.
Andrew 33, married four years:
It’s not. It depends on how long you were together before and if you have children. Kids dampen your sex life and kids are synonymous with marriage.
Denise 30, married three years:
It is better. Maybe I say so because my marriage is young, but for the mere fact that you don’t have to always look perfect and worry, and you can enjoy what you’re doing without stressing about getting pregnant for someone who’s not your husband.
Alison 41, married 10 years:
No. Having plenty sex doesn’t mean it’s better. Yes you have companionship, yes your partner is always there, and yes you can have sex whenever you feel to, but there’s no thrill about it. It doesn’t feel different. Plus the problems and stresses that come with a marriage stunt the enjoyment.
— KH
