Money and relationships
Money can be a deal-breaker in a relationship if one or both partners are not respecting the dollar. It is therefore advised that couples spend time to discuss money matters early, or they could be heading straight over a financial cliff.
How should couples approach the money discussion? Below several people share their experiences and give suggestions.
Keisha:
I think money and bills should be talked about the day a decision is made to be committed. People often shy away from this topic but it is extremely important to talk about it because money does affect intimacy and can drill a serious hole into a relationship. My partner and I made it our priority to sit and really dish out our expenses and income so we could meet in the middle, and so far, we have managed to purchase our home and motor vehicles. Couples, spend the time to talk about money!
JC:
My man wastes money on friends and parties and when it is time to pay our bills, he is broke, so basically I am left to carry the weight. I am extremely fed up of this and as I look towards my future, all I can see is me taking care of us and it is sad. I have been unfaithful several times to make ends meet. It is not something I am proud of, but to provide for me and him and our kids is a lot so I have done what I had to for survival.
Alecia:
I have been in a relationship for quite some time now and all my man spends on is clothes. All his money goes to clothes and shoes. He has never bought me anything because he is always saying that I am strong and independent but even though I am independent, it would be nice to get a gift. But forget the gifts, we have accomplished nothing because he is always telling me he is broke and always borrowing money from me which I have never gotten back. Some men are real jokers and it is depressing because a man is supposed to provide, not leech on a woman for support.
Kimbella:
I think couples should discuss money the day they decide to become serious.
