The secrets women say men shouldn’t share
WHILE Jamaican men have a certain knack for getting all up in their women’s business, women, on the other hand, are more reserved when it comes to asking men about their past, perhaps because they’re fearful of opening up the hornet’s nest. Sure, she will need to know certain details, like your medical history and past behaviour in long-term relationships, but a woman is often less keen on knowing the who, the what, at what age, and the how many in your love database.
Last week men shared the instances when women should put a lock on it; this week the women share the honest revelations that can sour her opinion of you. These are the instances in which she advises that you put a padlock on your mouth.
Ann-Marie, 42, teacher:
If you’ve ever, in a relationship, convinced a woman to get rid of your child because you weren’t ready, keep that to yourself. I don’t care how young or immature you were, it just shows that you’re irresponsible.
Maelynn, 27, daycare operator:
I don’t need to hear how much fun you had in high school or college and how many near misses you had with pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. That’s nasty.
Naomi, 30, accountant:
Some things are best for a therapist — like past abuse or trauma of a sexual nature. It’s not that a woman will be insensitive, but that’s not her burden to hear or bear, and you can’t just raise that with her and think that that confession is enough. You need professional help for that.
Opal, 44, business owner:
Some things in your past should remain there, especially if you have moved past that. Things like if you were dishonest in business, abused alcohol, or abused a partner. I don’t want that drama, unless, of course, you’re still fighting those demons. I’m certainly not going to tell you about all my skeletons.
Pretty, 38, entrepreneur:
Don’t suddenly spring some other woman or child or children on me, and say oops. The same goes for any past business marriage, or deportation, or conviction in prison, or anything like that. Those aren’t secrets you should keep in the first place, and then choose to share later. You should share those from the beginning of the relationship.
