Yes, he hates you
NOT every relationship falls apart with shouting or obvious betrayal. Sometimes it’s colder, more subtle and far more confusing. As a man, I can tell you that when a man cares about you, it shows in how he speaks, listens, and how he treats you when nobody’s watching. So when those things stop, it’s not something to ignore or explain away.
Know the difference between a rough patch, and a Satan who will chip away at your confidence and sense of worth. If you constantly feel disrespected, or he drains the very joy out of you, pay attention!
Ladies, I’m not looking to turn you against your partner, but to recognise when something isn’t right. Ever heard people say that men hate women? The truth is, hate doesn’t always come out as words. Most times it shows up in the way someone makes you feel over time.
Here are six signs that yes, you aren’t imagining things, that man really hates you.
He says you “annoy” his “spirit”
You’re talking, but he’s not really there. In fact, he outrightly tells you that you annoy his spirit, and when you offer feedback on anything, like his clothing or cologne, he says no one asked your opinion. He makes no effort to show interest in you, and often insults you without even trying to be subtle.
He’s ignores you, until it’s time to copulate
If he’s only nice when it’s early and his body’s calling, and takes what he wants with no hugs, kisses or interest in your needs, then ignores you afterwards, you’re just his woman of convenience.
He doesn’t want to be seen with you
It’s your birthday and he wishes you happy birthday in a generic way on his status, but blocks everybody else from seeing it. When he takes you out, it’s to some low-key place where you’re unlikely to be seen by anyone he knows, and you’re scrubbed from all his social media.
He finds small ways to put you down
It might sound like jokes, sarcasm, or “honesty”, but his words leaves you feeling small. Don’t play his smart mouth or disparaging comments off as him being a Leo or a Gemini. He’s just a man who hates you.
Your ‘feelings’ annoy him
If bringing up how you feel is met with eye rolls, defensiveness or irritation, it’s a sign he doesn’t value you on an emotional level, and he’s annoyed that you need him.
He obviously can’t stand you
If you, and everybody else, can see that he’s just barely tolerating you, don’t ignore those red flags. If he can’t even bother to hide it in public, that means he’s done with a capital D.
You feel more alone with him than without him
This is the biggest sign. If you’re coupled up but still feel unsupported, unseen, or emotionally isolated, something’s rotten in the state of your union.
Jevaughnie Smith is a communications professional. Send feedback to allwoman@jamaicaobserver.com.
