Let’s face it, we’ve all been caught in a situation before where a friend or best-friend suddenly no longer feels like your missing puzzle piece. Nothing happened, but suddenly you find yourself bored with the discussion or avoiding spending time with them simply because now you have something else you’d much rather be doing.

A lot of the times when we hear break-up songs, they’re normally about a romantic couple who’ve been dating until something goes wrong and they go their separate ways. We hear the Taylor Swift, Lady Saw and the Drake songs and we see those hilarious Arianna Grande memes that are like: “When she was your girl vs When y’all break up” but when was the last time you ever heard something about a friend break-up? It seems like all these songs know what to tell you about losing a lover, but when it comes on to losing a friend they’re as clueless as Oprah in the operating room.

Normally people talk about fake friends and cutting them off but when you have the pair of scissors in your hand it’s not as easy as ‘snip-snip’, especially if this person meant a lot to you. In-fact, most friend breakups tend to be harder than actual relationship breakups and can be just as messy, if not messier.

1. The absolute worst thing that could happen is that someone else knows how you’ve started feeling toward your best pal and decide to tell them without you knowing about it. This can start a lot of drama and make the breakup even messier than it needs to be. It’s better to just have a talk with them and see if you can get things sorted through – assuming you really want to.

2. Tell them what’s been on your mind and how you’ve been feeling for the past few months/weeks. If that person truly cares about you they’ll be willing to sort things through and respect whatever decision you make, and not be catty about it. Most relationships have problems at some point and it’s up to the both of you if you want to continue or not.

3. Be prepared to face either outcome and try not to be too bitter about what happened – especially when you’re the one being dumped.

Easier said than done but, that’s the case with most things. You’ll feel a lot better if you do it properly.