Rules for real men
Women may fall
When there’s no strength
In men.
— Shakespeare
What is indisputable is that women detest weak men, and are drawn to strong men. They may not say it out loud, but deep inside every woman prefers if her man is strong. That’s why women are attracted to bad men, cowboy types, even men in prison, because they perceive them to be strong, and power is the greatest aphrodisiac.
Of course, some women will have weak men and treat them like crap, but I’ll get to that later. Being strong does not mean having to exert yourself and be a bully, but being assertive, put your foot down, have your own opinion and stick to it, and most importantly, do not depend on her too much.
Any man who relies on his woman to do almost everything for him is no man at all, and after a while she’ll be the one who calls all the shots, does everything, wields the power, controls not only her life, but his as well.
Men have to put their foot down, stand up for their rights, don’t be a wimp, a punk, a wuss, but a real man. And what, pray tell, is a real man, especially one who knows how to deal with women?
Well, first of all he has to abide by certain rules, which we’ll find out about, right after these responses to what I had to say about ‘You couldn’t do better?’
Hi Tony,
There is the often used phrase that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. The perception of beauty is subjective, as what one person finds beautiful, another man may not. The man who brings home a woman he may consider beautiful but is unattractive to his mother, may never please his mother, no matter what qualities she has — beautiful or not. That’s just the way some mothers are. As for me, I would take a homely woman who is kind, affectionate, loving and sexy in bed, over the beautiful woman who is cantankerous, nagging and lacking intimacy. I could do better, but I may not want to.
Devon
Teerob,
You had me laughing and crying at the same time. Laughing because these situations really do happen, as men bring home plain Janes to their mothers and have to endure the backlash. And yet, I weep for those poor women who will never live up to the scrutiny of the man’s mother. It’s a cruel world, as being ugly is almost like a curse, but you speak the truth.
John
They say that real men don’t eat quiche, why, I will never know, for quiche is a dish that is popular, especially in North America. Still, it’s not associated with real men. In fact, the saying gained notoriety because of the tongue-in-cheek book satirising stereotypes of masculinity by the American screenwriter and humourist Bruce Feirstein. The now famous title alludes to the gender association of quiche as a feminine food in American culture, which causes men to avoid it.
And what is quiche? It’s a French tart consisting of pastry crust filled with savoury custard and pieces of cheese, meat, seafood or vegetables. Real men may not eat quiche, but we do know what Jamaican men don’t eat, or so they say. Meoow. Cat got your tongue?
What is true though is that to be a real man there are certain rules that have to be adhered to. Some may be known to you already, but I recently saw a few that are worth sharing.
The first states, never beg a woman for love. As simple as you may take it, many men break that cardinal rule all the time and ultimately pay the price. When you beg a woman for love, you demean yourself and put her on a pedestal, elevated to a lofty perch.
What happens when someone is placed in that elevated position? They have no choice but to look down on you. It’s a basic law of physics, you look up to heights, and who is high, looks down on you.
“I beg you, honey, just love me nuh, I will do anything for your love.”
Such an act of desperation is appalling. Apart from begging for love, some men will actually try to buy a woman’s love, which segues right into the second rule.
Never date a high-maintenance woman. Breaking this rule has cost many men dearly, as everything that she wants is so dear, as in expensive. Oh dear. In order to keep up with her high lifestyle the man eventually exhausts his resources and ends up destitute or close to it.
More women have put men into the poor house than did gambling or drinking. Then she disappears, for high-maintenance women do not deal with low-budget men. As the old saying goes, ‘Her chest high.’ No bargain basement thrift shop merchandise for her.
Never ever tolerate disrespect from a woman under any circumstances. Many women have a penchant for disrespecting their men, especially if they think that they’ve ‘arrived’ either in the social echelon, up the ladder of success at the workplace, educationally, or financially.
Now that she’s CEO of the company and he’s still a low paid journeyman civil servant she shows her disrespect either verbally or silently. At times she doesn’t even want to be seen in public with him and never introduces him to her friends or co-workers. This disrespect can become verbal as she talks down to him and even berates him in public.
“Shut up, I don’t see you earning any real money.”
Riding on the back of that rule about begging a woman for love is the rule about never begging a woman to stay if she wants to leave. If she wants to leave for whatever reason, let her go with your blessings, but make sure that you never take her back.
To do so would just add to the disrespect as she thinks that you cannot live without her.
“He can’t do without me, I have him in the palm of my hands.”
So when she says, “I’m leaving you.” Just say, “Okay, bye.” Now that’s a real man.
Many women may not like to hear this rule, but it says, Never date a broke woman. It’s self-explanatory, for just like how the high-maintenance woman is a financial liability and a drain on the man’s pocket, so is the woman who is broke.
Not only will he have to maintain himself, but her as well, plus any children or family she may have in tow, for she has no money to do anything. Not even a patty and a box juice she can buy, but her hair and nails will always have to be done.
Riding on the heels of letting her go if she wants to go, is the rule about never taking her back if she left you for another man. Think about it, she left you for enormously endowed Joe, and after he’s finished with her she wants to come back to you? Who are you, Mr Back up plan, Mr Safety Net, Mr Parachute?
That is one rule that when not observed has been the downfall of many men. It’s a sign of weakness, and as stated, never show weakness to a woman. It’s like when a predator such as a shark or lion smells blood, they become emboldened and jump on the prey and rip it to shreds in a feeding frenzy.
When a woman feels her strength and senses the man’s weakness, that’s the end of the story, the culmination of the cohabitation, the ruination of the romance, the end of the road.
This next rule can be a life saver, even though it’s often ignored by men to their peril. Never fight another man over a woman. This has resulted in the dismemberment or death of many men over the centuries. You can fight to defend your woman, but don’t fight another man over her. It can lead to prison or death, and then she simply moves on.
There are some men who enjoy the lifestyle of living off women, but this rule that states, Never let a woman pay your bills, should be observed. What sort of weak parasitic man would allow his woman to pay all of his bills all of the time? In effect, she mind him. Certainly not a real man.
And finally, never allow your woman to have a male best friend. Now you may say, nothing is wrong with your woman having a male best friend, after all, they were friends from school days. Bad move. You don’t put cream at puss mouth and then expect him not to lick it. Remember what I said about Jamaican men and not eating quiche or whatever?
Best friends can morph into something else and you won’t like the end result. Of course, there’s a caveat, for if the best friend is gay, then that’s permissible, but nothing else.
So those are the rules for real men who are dealing with women. Sage advice from scholars, scribes and philosophers far brighter than I am. Abide, and be a real man.
More time.
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Footnote: We are a country that has so much to be proud of after 60 years of Independence. Our athletes have made us even more proud with their accomplishments in the recently concluded World Under-20 Championships where we came second overall with the best medal haul ever. Our youngsters really showcased their talents on the world stage which is truly a testament to our annual Boys’ and Girls’ Champs programme. The Commonwealth Games also brought us glory as we finished fourth on the track and field medal table. No other country of our size or even larger can boast of these achievements. Our beacon shines brightly and we must be proud and thankful.