AH, the holidays! Twinkling lights, festive music, and family gatherings can lift our spirits, but for many singles, this season can also bring an uncomfortable reminder: You’re still single. Maybe you’ve been married before, maybe you’re navigating life as a single mom, or maybe you’re simply waiting on God’s timing, but the loneliness can feel sharper this time of year.

Let me remind you: Being single does not mean being alone, and this holiday season is the perfect time to celebrate you. Here are five ways to forget that you’re still single and truly enjoy the season.

Become your own VIP

Too often, singles wait for someone else to make the season special. But the most important person in your life is you. Treat yourself like the VIP you are: Take yourself out to a holiday concert, book a spa day, or buy yourself that gift you’ve been eyeing. When you honour yourself, joy naturally follows.

Tip: Create a “solo date night” tradition — light candles, play your favourite music, and savour your own company. You’ll be surprised how uplifting it can be.

Serve others — It’s the ultimate mood booster

One of the best ways to shift focus from loneliness is to pour love into others. Volunteer at a local shelter, visit a nursing home, or organise a small gift drive for children in need.

When you see the smiles you inspire, your own heart can’t help but feel full. Giving in the holidays reminds you that purpose and joy aren’t tied to relationship status, they’re tied to living with intention and love.

Fascinating idea: Host a “Secret Santa for Strangers”— random acts of kindness for people in your community. Your single status suddenly feels irrelevant in the face of spreading joy.

Create your own traditions

Not every tradition has to come from family expectations. Start something new just for you. Maybe it’s a yearly holiday movie marathon, a winter-themed vision board party with friends, or even a gratitude walk every evening to reflect on the year.

Tip: Make these experiences social or solitary, it doesn’t matter. The point is to create rituals that bring joy independent of a partner. Over time, these traditions become treasured memories.

Connect and celebrate with your tribe

Holidays are a perfect excuse to surround yourself with people who lift you up. Plan gatherings with friends, fellow singles, or supportive colleagues. A “Friendsmas” dinner, a group gift exchange, or even a holiday-themed
Zoom hangout can remind you that connection is everywhere and love isn’t only romantic.

Fun idea: Host a ‘Single and Fabulous’ holiday party where everyone brings their favourite dish and shares one thing they’re proud of this year. The laughter, stories, and encouragement will make the season sparkle.

Embrace reflection, faith, and vision

The holiday season is also a spiritual time, a chance to reflect, reset, and set intentions for the year ahead. Spend time journalling, praying, or meditating on the blessings you already have. This quiet, intentional space will shift your mindset from lack to abundance.

Insightful twist: Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, write a “joy list”— all the things that bring fulfilment and peace, from friendships to achievements to personal growth. You’ll be amazed at how full your life already is.

The truth is, being single during the holidays doesn’t have to be lonely. With the right mindset and intentional actions, you can make this season memorable, joyous, and spiritually rich.

Remember: your value, joy, and happiness are not dependent on a relationship, they reside within you. So go ahead, embrace your freedom, create memories, and celebrate you. This holiday season, the only thing you’ll forget is that you’re still single.

Marie Berbick-Bailey is a certified master life coach, women’s transformational coach, ordained minister, author, motivational speaker, wife, mother and big sister dedicated to empowering women to heal, thrive, and walk in purpose. Connect with her at www.marieberbick.com, www.marieberbickcoach.com, or e-mail marieberbick@gmail.com.

Marie Berbick-Bailey