He is the half part

Of a blessed man,

Left to be finished by such as she,

And she a fair divided excellence

Whose fullness of perfection lies in him.

— Shakespeare, King John

Aww, now ain’t that quote above sweet, as it sums up exactly what a perfect marriage should entail; he’s the half part of a blessed man, and she a fair divided excellence to make him whole, the fullness of perfection. But be careful, for sometimes that man may just be finished when she’s through with him.

Still, that’s exactly what every woman who I’ve spoken to wants: a happy marriage, a blessed and perfect man. At least that’s what they tell me, and seeing as how it’s a new year, it’s right on the agenda of so many women to get a man and hope that marriage is on the horizon.

“Teerob, I want a man for 2026, I’m tired of the single life.”

New year, same old song. Interestingly, I don’t hear that chorus coming from men, who seem to take things in stride and accept what comes. Never have I heard a man say, “It’s a new year, I must find a woman to marry.” Instead, you might hear, “Whatever happen happen.”

What is ironic and almost laughable too, is the type of women who keep on yearning to find a man to marry them. I really wonder if they look in the mirror or calculate their decades before they utter those words.

There she is, way past her prime, never was good looking from morning, yet having aspirations to get married, and to a perfect man too. I’m not being cruel, but I’m a realist, and I wonder if those women really think that an eligible man is going to marry them at that stage of their lives.

When they express that wish to me, it’s difficult to keep a straight face, even as I laugh inside and think, “Lady, get real, it’s not going to happen.” But even so, not everybody is suitable for marriage, and there are definitely people who you should never ever marry, as we’ll find out right after these responses to what I had to say about ‘Sex criminals’.

Tony,

Just like you, I’ve often wondered why some societies spend so much time harassing and pressuring people who indulge in sexual activity. Of course, incidents such as rape and paedophilia, bestiality and such are heinous crimes and should be punished with the utmost severity. But if two consenting adults wish to get it on, freely or via a financial transaction, why punish them? As far as I’m concerned there is no free sex anyway, for the man pays in one way or another. It will never stop.

Leroy

Mr Teerob,

I am a Christian woman and sex should be a sacred act between a man and a woman under the sanctity of marriage for procreation only, the Bible says so. Any other sexual activity outside of marriage is considered a crime, and even in the Bible fornicators were punished severely. I rebuke you and any others for saying or doing otherwise.

Church Sista

Over the holidays while at a dinner gathering, this lady got up and extolled the virtues of her husband for all to hear. She finished each sentence by saying, “I married well, I married well.”

It was so heartwarming to hear a woman speak so glowingly of her husband, as so many women seem to be always cussing and chastising their husbands, privately or in public. She clearly is one who men should marry.

There’s an old saying that men always share among themselves, “Some you have fun with, others you marry.” It’s really a judgement call regarding the type of women who are what they think is ‘marriage material’ and it can save men many years of crosses. But it goes even further than that, for at times it’s difficult to discern who is marriage material and who is not.

Just like that lady earlier, a man would love to say of his wife, “I married well.” The fact is, though, men are often blinded by beauty, and as long as the woman is pretty, then he’ll marry her. The terms beautiful bride and arm candy come to mind, as many men are content to have a pretty woman on their arm as a wife even though nutten else nah gwaan in other areas.

But
caveat emptor, the Greeks say, buyer beware, for there are many pitfalls and dangers that come with marrying the wrong person. The term ‘unequally yoked’ from the
Bible should not be scoffed at, but taken seriously. As should be the words from the song, ‘Take time to know her son, take time to know her.’

It was also Shakespeare who penned, ‘Marry in haste and repent at leisure.’ But before you even make a hasty decision, there are some indicators that should be heeded.

Firstly, don’t marry a woman who wants you to be her retirement plan after she’s played the field, partied hard and been involved with a host of different men. A man should do his due diligence and find out about her past before he plans to marry her.

He should know by the heightened interest that she has in him that her intentions are not in his best interest, but in hers. It borders on desperation. I have known women like that who spent their younger years at the disco nightclub scene, partying like its 1999, bouncing from man to man until they get older and decide to settle down with a man to marry.

That man is their retirement plan, for all those previous guys have moved on, found suitable women to marry and have no further interest in her. After all that running around, she now expects a man, older of course, to marry her and take care of her needs, wants and whatever else until debt do they part.

There are so many stories in the USA right now of those women marrying rich superstars to be their retirement plan. Be careful. But I have also seen stories where these rich sports stars actually put all of their assets in their mothers’ name just to protect themselves from those types of women. Sad but true. Actually it’s kinda funny when you think about it.

Do not marry a woman who has too many children. This may seem cold and cruel, but any man who marries a woman with multiple children had better be prepared for challenges to come. Of course, it’s okay to marry a woman who has one child, as many of those unions work out beautifully, with that child bonding with and accepting the stepdad as its own father. But that multiple pickney scenario often spells disaster.

Here she comes with three or four likkle pickney and wants to marry the man, expecting him to be an instant daddy to the brood. Ask yourself the question, why did the father of those children leave her with so many kids? Okay, some men are worthless and abandon their children, Jamaican men are notorious for that. But what happens when all those children belong to different fathers, why did they all leave her, is suh she nuh have nuh luck wid man?

The man who marries her will only be father number four and taking on more baggage than a country bus down at Pechon Street. He will pay through his nose, financially and emotionally, and sometimes be verbally abused by those children if he dares to reprimand them. I have seen it happen so often. Would you let your son marry a woman with four children for four different fathers? I don’t think so.

Do not marry a woman who is older than you. I have touched on this before and have given many examples why it’s not advisable to do so. The same applies to marrying a woman who is too young, for that age difference can prove to be a huge problem.

But somehow it seems much worse when the man marries a woman who is older than he is. I will go even further and say, don’t marry a woman who is your age, for as you both grow older, she may age faster than the man and look considerably older. I have seen it often, and the experts suggest an age difference of say, three to seven years with the man being older of course.

But to marry a woman who is older is absolutely not recommended. After a while she’ll not only look like his mother but act like she is too. The French President Macron has been getting a hard time from the press and from onlookers because he married his former teacher.

In 1993 at the age of 39, she met the 15-year-old Emmanuel Macron in La Providence high school where she was teaching and he was a student and a classmate of her daughter. Do the math, it just doesn’t add up why a man would go down that road. Again, would you like it if your son did that?

I’m not just whistling Dixie here; I did my research and the advice is, men should not marry mentally ill feminists, non-virgin women, unemployed gold diggers, women who only see you as an ATM, fat entitled women, women with a high body count and a torrid past, which I have explored before, 30 year olds with crazy impossible standards now looking to settle down.

Do not marry any ugly woman if her mother is ugly too, for it means that the ugly genes are consistent and your children will be ugly too. Never marry your mistress, for she doesn’t respect marriage, and if she’s married and seeing you behind her husband’s back, even worse, for she’ll do the same thing to you.

Of course, there are some men who women should not marry, but I have found that many women will accept almost any man if he has money. True or false? They will overlook the faults just to be able to have a suitable, high-end ,material lifestyle. How often we’ve seen beautiful young women with men who look like a bullfrog and the remark always is, ”He must have money.”

More time.

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Footnote: I’m sure that it’s not just me, but has anyone else noticed how many churches were completely destroyed during the passage of Hurricane Melissa? I mean, those huge concrete and block or stone structures almost totally obliterated, not just losing roofs, but appeared as if they were bombed out, even as other buildings around them suffered less damage. This happened during Hurricane Gilbert too, and I recall doing a documentary then and seeing the destruction of churches across the island. Why is this so? Are there dark forces hell-bent on destroying them, a divine entity angry with them, or is it just poor construction, with the very high roofs and lots of space inside for the wind to swirl around in? It does seem sinister though, these seemingly strong concrete structures all mash up like that.