Has pornography sneaked into our bedrooms?
I have no way of confirming the exact sexual practices of humanity’s first couple, but I think that it’s safe to say that oral sex played no role in that first exchange. History tells us that sex didn’t develop its erotic and kinky qualities until later on in early civilisations of Egypt and parts of India.
Modern day sex has become chaotic. With insatiable global appetite for porn, and the instant access to a plethora of sexual fetishes, via the Internet, sexual practices that were once regarded as a porn star’s domain, are now common place in some couples bedrooms. Making the act of sex into more of a copying affair than one of creativity.
The promise of pleasure is still at the core of sex for most participants, while the variety of sexual positions and sex toys used is increasingly becoming more necessary, some sex polls say. ‘Normal’ sex has taken on a one dimensional and plain label in the ever-changing sexual world of today’s couples.
In conversation with a female friend I was asked whether I felt human sexuality was genetic. My answer was yes and no. I believe that males and females have a built-in understanding of the basic use of their sexual organs, however, I don’t believe that a lot of the things that men and women are doing today sexually are part of their natural genetic make-up.
The 2002 sex-scandal of R&B heavy weight, R Kelly, brought light to the world of a non-traditional or deviant type of sexuality. Whether the court finds Kelly guilty or not, the fact still remains that a black man was captured on those video tapes.
The question is, what inspired the individual on those tapes to include bodily waste in his brand of sex? I am no mind reader, but I’d be willing to bet that his behaviour can be traced back to either a porn flick or website.
Even in Jamaica, there are more stores around selling sex toys and sexual enhancers, suggesting that Jamaicans are more open to exploring their sexuality.
At the end of the day though what you choose to do in the privacy of your own bedroom is entirely your business. I’d be the last person to discourage fun in the bedroom, but I’m beginning to feel that too much of people’s sexuality is rooted in porn, and not enough in their own imaginations. To me sex should be mostly mental but I could be wrong.
David Dacosta is a freelance writer.
