Two kinds of women to avoid
Javier is a 20-something-year-old bachelor, an expert in the nature of the modern man. Week by week, he will clue you in on what men really want – and what really goes on in those heads of theirs.
THIS week I’m feeling very generous, and because I’m feeling so generous, I’m going to do a two for one special. For the price of one reading of this column, I’m going to give the gentlemen two types of women they are supposed to avoid and the reasons they are supposed to avoid them.
I can already hear the women saying that pretty soon all the men will stop talking to women when I’m done listing the types men are to avoid. As far as I’m concerned, it’s either I’m right and there are dozens of Ms Wrongs out there, or I’ve just been having the worst luck with you women – and in that case I’m still right.
Anyway, the fist woman we are singling out is the argumentative girl. Consider this age-old scenario:
Man: You look nice today.
Woman: So what does that mean, I don’t normally look nice?
This in a nutshell sums up the disposition of the argumentative girl. She turns even the slightest piece of conversation into a debate, a debate that she will not lose.
The reason, I believe, that the arguer has this disposition is because deep down they believe that they are one of, if not the smartest person they know. And each time they take somebody on in a debate, it reassures them of just how smart they think they are, even at the expense of good conversation. Arguers tend to look for persons who can argue as well as they can, and if you can’t or just aren’t interested in debating, then they become very condescending, making them really annoying to be around.
But on the other hand, if you decide that she is far too hot to let her argumentative disposition stop you and you go ahead anyway, it will be months before you have any quality time with her that doesn’t involve discussing the theoretical underpinnings (that’s my word for today) of something you weren’t really interested in to begin with. So you can see that it’s almost a lose-lose situation with those argumentative girls. But these girls aren’t all bad. In fact, I’d say avoid them at your own discretion instead of at all costs.
Speaking of those girls you avoid at all costs, however, enter the ‘b**** to everyone but you’. Her name speaks for itself. Very simply, you can’t have a relationship with someone who goes out of her way to piss off every person you both know. For starters, you will spend most of your time apologising to people for her behaviour and trying to convince them that your girlfriend isn’t as bad as they think. Not to mention the constant explanations for why you’re still with her.
But nobody will listen because they already know how much of a b**** she really is. And soon enough some of the people you know will start finding ways to avoid dealing with you, especially if they feel that you are always choosing her side over theirs (which you probably are constantly doing).
And the worst thing about being the boyfriend of this kind of woman is that no matter how much you talk to her about it, she won’t change until she is ready to give up the title of ‘b****’. Like I said last week, b****** like to know that their actions have an effect on people, and that they can influence the way you think and feel.
And treating people with disdain gives them a feeling of power over other people, a power that you don’t give up so easily. So basically the b**** to everyone but you is not good company, so avoid her.
Remember men, it’s the good ones that count.
