How to: Talk to your daughter about menstruation
MANY of the concerns about puberty in young girls have to do with menstruation. The when, why and what-to-do are questions you need to answer before your daughter reaches this stage.
Girls, as well as boys need to know the facts. Once your daughter’s breast development has started, the two of you should fully discuss the topic. This is critical so you ensure that she is not surprised by her first period, how it is happening or why.
It is often recommended that the sex education talk take place over an extended period of time. Rather than sitting a child down in a formal, awkward way, if you are able to discuss sex education at appropriate times this can be a more natural approach. Some girls have their period as early as nine or 10, so it is probably best to broach the subject by the age of eight or nine. You don’t want your daughter to be surprised by her first cycle or to be fearful in any way.
Here are some tips.
. Discuss the biology of menstruation, describing it as a normal bodily process. Mention that her periods may be irregular, particularly in the beginning, as her body adapts to rapid physiological changes. Also, let her know that several months before her first period, fluid may be secreted by glands within her vagina. This substance may be clear or white in colour and watery to thick in consistency.
. Explain that she may experience some cramping before or during her periods. If cramps become severe, over the counter medications are available to remedy the situation.
. Discuss hygiene related to menstrual cycles. Be sure your daughter has the supplies, whether sanitary napkins or tampons she will need for her first period and show her how to use it. If you are a single father who feels awkward doing so, ask a trusted female friend/family member to assist.
. She should understand how her period fits into her reproductive health and into the possibility of becoming pregnant.
. Explain to her that she can take part in normal activities while menstruating, such as swimming, physical education etc. Exercise can sometimes even ease the cramps associated with periods.
. Make sure that you are ready for any questions that she might ask you and for any explanations that she may request.
. There are many websites and books that you can use to explain sex education and menstruation. You certainly don’t need to have these aids, but they can help your child to understand the process more.
Remember, if you are embarrassed while talking about these issues with your child, you’ll be sending the wrong message to her about her body and her reproductive future. Find out if your child is going to receive sex education in school and try to co-ordinate your talks with the school’s lessons. You can ask your child’s teacher about his/her plans and get advice from her/him.
This is an exciting time in your daughter’s life and one that can be approached by you with enthusiasm, humility and excitement, rather than with embarrassment or confusion.
