Get him in the mood for love

DOES your man seem hardly interested in sex these days? Yes you read the question right, as although it has always been held that men are sexual creatures, always up for a quickie no matter the location or the time of day, men can sometimes go from hot to cold in the bedroom for a variety of reasons.

So is your once sex-craved man now a workaholic or worst yet, a couch potato who leaves you wanting some good loving? The big question now is, what do you do when you are hot for some bedroom romping and your man is not? Well, we’ve got some ideas, tips and techniques that will have you guys shaking things up between the sheets in no time.

For your couch potato

1. Show him something he won’t get on television: If your man finds watching television more appealing than you, then it’s time to show him why you can rival any sports star by giving him a strip tease. After showering him with a few spicy kisses, lead him from the couch to the bedroom, where you can give him an action-packed lovemaking session that will rival any satisfaction that watching sports can give.

2. Give him a sensuous massage: A massage of his most erogenous zones will have him craving you in no time. Start with his neck and back while he’s watching television, and then alternately suckle and kiss his other weak areas such as his ears and neck to prepare him for some serious loving.

3. Take him to the brink and back: Make it extremely difficult for him to say no to you, by going braless and then gently brushing up against his hands while he is not paying attention. If he seems interested, play with him a bit before giving in.

4. Get him thinking about sex: Strutting your stuff in five-inch stilettos and going half-dressed around the house is one of the best ways to get him off the couch faster than you can say “meet me in the bedroom”. The more you walk pass the television screen, the hotter he will get and when he does, make sure you are ready to help him cool off.

For the workaholic

1. Accessorise his home office: Does your man spend more time in his home office than in the bedroom with you? Well, you may need to take the action there instead. Get out your most daring outfit and make yourself very comfortable in his office chair. Make sure to dim the lights, just to add that element of surprise when he gets in, then show him just why he should be working on you rather than crunching figures.

2. Pay him a visit on the job: Turn up to his workplace one day in a respectable suit covering a raunchier undergarment. When both of you are behind closed doors, you can give him a quick peak of what is under the suit you have donned. He’ll more than likely want more than a peek, but just advise him that there is more in store at home.

3. Send him some steamy e-mails: Make it extremely hard for him to concentrate at work through the day by sending him some steamy e-mails detailing exactly what you want to be done to you when he gets home. We guarantee that he’ll be coming home much earlier during the days after receiving a few of these e-mails.

4. Help him get his work done: Some men really do have a lot to handle at work, making it difficult for them to put their needs above the work of the company. Assisting him to get his work done in the quickest amount of time will no doubt give him more time to spend with you, satisfying not only his needs, but yours.

For the man who has become bored

1. Engage in steamy foreplay: Contrary to popular belief, men sometimes want more than a quickie. They want to spend time really making love to you and to have you touch and caress them in return. So before jumping into bed, make sure you spend a little time getting him in the mood. Don’t be afraid to touch, nibble and caress him even while his clothes are still on.

2. Reaffirm him as a man: Maybe your husband has been shying away from sex because he feels he is getting too old to please you. It’s your job as a wife to reaffirm his manhood. If he suffers from erectile dysfunction, you can let him know that he is still desirable by trying other techniques that don’t require penetration.

3. Try new positions: Maybe he has lost interest in sex because you refuse to do anything besides the missionary position. Wake up, this is the 21st century. Visit a toy store or buy yourself a copy of the Kama Sutra and test out some of those moves.

4. Mend the relationship outside the bedroom: When there is tension in the household, it can prove really hard for your man to be interested in sex, especially if you are having marital or other problems. Mending your relationship outside the bedroom is important in spicing up your love life under the sheets.