What was your biggest concern before you got married?
Marriage may be the ideal moral society forces people to aspire to, but not everyone enters the institution with stars in their eyes and hope in their hearts. In fact, many people have genuine reservations about marriage, so much so that some insist on holding off on the old ball and chain indefinitely.
This week we asked married people, what was your biggest concern before tying the knot?
Lisa, 35:
I wondered if my new in-laws would like me. Mothers tend to be very protective of their sons and with me entering into the equation, I knew the dynamics would change. Would she be willing to essentially step aside and let me be the woman in his life? At no point in our relationship did I want my husband to have to choose between his family and I.
Ian, 38:
I know this sounds egotistic but I was worried about the number of partners she had in the past. My wife-to-be at the time had had more sexual partners that I did. I felt somewhat pressured in a sense because she had more experience than I had and so her expectations would have been really high. I was a bit insecure in that department. But so far everything has worked out.
Marjorie, 41:
For me it was his ability to take up the role as the man in the home. I didn’t want to at any point have to take over his responsibility in the home. For me it’s a matter of his being able to perform as a man, a provider, a father.
Cynthia, 34:
It was a long engagement and so I was worried about whether he would follow through on his word. I was also a bit worried if financially he would be able to afford to start a family at that point in his life. I’m a girl who loves her financial security and so his ability to provide for me and our children was a major concern. Two broke people getting married, especially in times like these, didn’t make sense.
Yanique, 32:
We are both from different religious backgrounds. And the Bible speaks about being unequally yoked. I didn’t want to create a household that was divided when it came to its religious values.
Franz, 39:
I was concerned that our love wouldn’t last. I was afraid that we would grow tired of each other, we would each stray and that adultery would at some point enter our marriage.
Diandra, 33:
I was young when I got married and my career was beginning to take off. My major concern was that I would have to scale back on my career aspirations so that we could have a family. He wanted children and I understood this. He has a successful career as well but the thing is I would be the one having the baby, not him.
