Six years, two weeks, five days…

The experts say that getting over a break-up sometimes mimics the grief-after-death process, an event that can take weeks, months, even years. Many people go through the grief stages too — anger, denial, depression and eventual acceptance. How long did it take you to get over your last break-up?

Nicolette, 40:

My last partner was abusive and extremely jealous. When I was with him I could only talk to him and him alone. And only my or his family members could call me. When I finally got enough courage to walk out, I never looked back. It didn’t even take a day to get over him.

Paula, 36:

Six years, two weeks, five days. He was the love of my life, and I mourned for a very long time. It was faith and baptism that finally did the trick.

Latoya, 44:

I’m still not over it, two years later. I still hear his voice, still stalk him on Facebook and still keep the pictures of us together.

Nadine, 35:

He was my first love. All my firsts were with him and so in order for me to even digest the fact that we were no longer together, it took a while. Too long if you ask me, but nothing happens before its time.

Althea, 34:

As painful as it was to leave my last boyfriend, I did it and haven’t regretted it since. It took me about a month or so. And for me it was gradual in that I had to do things to get over him — like deleting his number and stop talking to people who we both talked to.

Ann Marie, 37:

It took about a year or so. I personally don’t do flings, it’s straight relationships. And if I go into a relationship with you, I go all in. There were multiple times when I thought we weren’t done yet and I wanted to get back together with him. It takes a while for someone to get completely out of your system.

Phillipa, 33:

I really did love him plus he was the one who wanted out. When someone leaves you, you may end up blaming yourself for the failed relationship. Getting over this blame game takes months. Trust me, I should know, I’ve been there.