Men: How to successfully date a career woman
Many men shy away from independent, career driven women for a number of reasons; often they don’t feel like they have anything to offer to the women who seem to have it all.
But there’s no need to be intimidated, says Denecia Green, author of Lies, Sex and Betrayal. She says men just have to tweak their game plan a bit and meet women in the challenge.
Here are some things to consider:
Suggest going out for drinks
Career driven women often prefer a post-work cocktail as the ideal first date rather than the cliché dinner and movie. However, when deciding on a drinks chill spot, aim for a place that lets you hear each other yet still retains social energy. If it’s possible, avoid the high bar stools as this may not be the most comfortable thing after a long day at work or if she is dolled up in her heels and pencil skirt. Drink at her pace and call it a wrap after three drinks. Anything over that will start to send the wrong impression.
Support her independence
Businesswomen have their own comforts or their own way of doing things so you can’t strip them of this. So rather than squash her independence, listen attentively and show interest in the things that matter to her. The best thing you can do for a successful woman is act as a sounding board as she talks through her concerns. She just might come up with a solution just by talking to you.
Respect her schedule
If you plan to date a career driven woman then you need to know her calendar. Know when to say and do certain things. Don’t be bombarding her with text messages every second of the day or call routinely and expect prolonged conversations. Respect her work schedule and give her time to disengage from her work self and re-engage with the rest of her personality.
Become thick skinned
Don’t be surprised if she cancels several dates because of work related reasons and don’t take it personally. The most self-defeating thing to do is advertise your insecurities. Roll with the punches and give her the benefit of the doubt. If she likes you, she will definitely reschedule and your sympathetic response will likely score points.
Be a strong, independent man
It will be hard for you to create and maintain attraction with these types of women if you are not strong and independent. This is the only way you will truly appreciate and understand her sense of life or see the world the way she sees it as both of you will have something in common — hence a foundation to build on.
It also important for you to remember that no matter how career driven she seems, at the end of it all she is still a woman. She will still need a safe place to fall apart, to vent and to unleash her negative emotions. She won’t be able to experience that masculine, grounding energy by herself. She will need that from you. Be that strong foundation when she tumbles. Be that source she is constantly drawn to, and that is when she will feel at home.
