Don’t stay angry with him for too long
It’s the tactic of many women — to give their men the silent treatment, or even lock shop, especially after an argument. However, romance author Richie Drenz says this is a no-no.
Below he shares five reasons why you shouldn’t stay angry with your man for too long.
1. He will find someone else
Don’t think that this is an idle threat. If you are still stuck on something that he is way past, then he will give up trying to make it work with you. There may be a man shortage out there but there is not a woman shortage. A man who is not happy at home will find someone else who is willing to fulfill his needs and not rattle him about every one of his wrongdoings. You being angry with him might just be the excuse he needs to stay out late at night.
2. The elephant is still in the relationship
Being silent on an issue or choosing not to discuss it will not push the elephant out of your relationship. Both of you have to be willing to come to a point where the issue can be discussed openly. The environment created must be open enough to allow the both of you to be able to share your opinions without being ridiculed. Not being able to talk about something will only let it fester so much so that the relationship can reach a critical breaking point.
3. If he is not going to talk to you about it, then he might be pushed to talk to HER
Just because you are not talking doesn’t mean that he isn’t. Not every man feels comfortable talking to his guy friends about his relationship issues. And so he might opt to talk to one of his female confidantes. This is not something you want to happen. Though he might go to her innocently, she might take advantage of his moment of weakness and use it to her advantage. He might end up turning to her for a shoulder to cry on and never leave her side.
4. You are pushing him away even further
Not every man is as in tune with his emotions as you are, and so you have to be willing to meet him half-way. Telling him that he has to sleep on the couch tonight might sound like a good idea in your head, but in actuality it might not be. Be willing to compromise and hear where he is coming from. If you push him away, the divide between the both of you can and will get larger and larger to the point of no repair.
5. You’re not just hurting him, you’re hurting you as well
You might think that you are spiting him by not talking to him. But the truth is that you are hurting you as well. It’s ironic but it’s true — all of the pent up resentment and anger is as caustic to you as it is to him. Plus, anything that you feed will grow. If you think that this will not mature to become systemic, wait until you start another relationship with another man.
