Most regrettable hook-ups
REGRETS are a part of life, and sometimes the princes or princesses we meet turn out to be frogs, and we end up regretting the whole experience. What has been your most regrettable hook-up? The readers below share:
KB:
He was not single, and I was a fool to believe him when he said he was. He had his bonafide person who he wanted to share his future with. He was just trying to have sex with me once or use me as one of his sidechicks. I regret going out with him. And he had the nerve to offer me money for sex after he disclosed that he was not single.
AM:
From the first time this person starting making time and began paying me attention, I should have known. We hardly spoke before we hooked up, but I liked him. He Whatsapped me one night and said he wanted to talk. The next evening we were on a date, and he shared his life story. I felt sorry for him and listened, then offered to pay some of his expenses. We went to my house and a little stuff happened – like very little stuff – but I regret it because he never really wanted me. He wanted my money. Then we started having arguments because he started sleeping with other people who were ‘his type’ and who loved to party with him, unlike me who is all about church and Heaven.
GJ:
We were dating for two weeks and the relationship was on a high. We decided to go to the beach one night and we were sitting at one end when a message came in on my phone from my female best friend. My date looked over and saw the name and her picture and started freaking out and saying it was my woman. When she calmed down she asked to see my phone and I knew she wanted to search it, so I willingly gave her, because there was nothing in it. When she got the phone she threw it in the sand and started screaming, and other men who were there rushed me as they thought I was robbing her. When they figured out what was happening they walked away and gave me a flashlight to look for my phone.
PT:
I had been ‘dating’ this guy for a while but things remained fairly platonic for months – all he would do was peck me on the cheek and forehead, even though he spent a lot of money on dates and gifts and such. And he wasn’t a Christian. I began to wonder if something was wrong about six months in, so I made plans to seduce him for Valentine’s Day because though it seemed like we were in a relationship, there was nothing physical. I invited him over and things heated up, and I began to think that he had just been shy. When we took it to the bedroom, however, I realised why he had been so hesitant. I’ve seen small, but this guy was miniscule, minute. There was no way I could do anything with that, so I got up to leave the bedroom. But apparently he was ready for action, so he chased after me while I literally ran away and had to lock myself in the bathroom while he cursed me for leading him on.
EM:
In 2014, there was this guy who used to put words to me, but I didn’t want him and told him I had a boyfriend, which was the truth. But out of boredom and idleness I entertained him and went for drinks a couple of times. When my boyfriend and I stopped talking I mentioned it to him and he tried again to get me to be his girl. At this point I told him that I didn’t like him like that and he threatened me, telling me he was a don and if I ever dared talk to anyone else he would murder them. It resulted in me having to move from where I lived. I called my big brother who moved me out of my house at 12:00 midnight. The landlord didn’t even know I left. I just moved, went back later on in a cab, gave him the key and disappeared.
RH:
I dated this psycho in high school who would always buy me gifts and take me out. I went along with it and brought in some of my friends. When I got bored I told him he was no longer welcome and should stop calling as I had moved on. Well, he stalked me for weeks, would stay at the school gate hoping to see me step outside, and would constantly call my cellphone and reveal his suicide plans if I answered. For months the thought of this guy taking his life played on my mind.
TW:
I accepted an offer for drinks with a man I had known because of the nature of my job. Well, he sat there the entire night twiddling his thumbs and hardly said a word. I wondered how this man could move from being talkative in the day at his job and be a completely shy person in the night. I eventually became annoyed and left.
IR:
I dated a co-worker once who was nothing but a user. She allowed me to take her out, make out with her, and exchange nude pictures. After about three months into the situation she came to work with a ring on her finger and people were saying congrats. I stayed away even when she waved and tried talking to me. By the time the day ended she had up her wedding picture as her screen saver.
