When honey gets chubby
You have been with your partner for some time now. When you first met they were well-toned and in shape, but as the years flew by their body has morphed into something different. They have gained weight and you find them to be less attractive, to the point where you are no longer interested in having sex with them.
You want to tell them, but a person’s weight can be a touchy topic. It’s even more difficult telling your partner if the person gained it through sickness or giving birth to your children.
How would you express your concern to your mate?
Jacenta:
I remember gaining weight with my last son. Once I had him my belly fat wouldn’t go down. I became insecure and didn’t want to get intimate with my man; no matter how much he told me I was sexy, I didn’t believe him. Then I got pregnant again. I went from 160lbs to 210lbs after birth. I thought I was going crazy. My boyfriend and I joined the gym together and a year later, I’m at 145lbs. I won’t be having any more kids, of that I’m sure.
Antonio:
My ex cursed me out over this same thing. When I met her she was slim and trim then she just let herself go. I told her that I wasn’t feeling her new look, that she needed to take care of herself, and she flipped out.
Keri:
I’m only attracted to well-toned men so if any man I spoke to started to get out of shape, I wouldn’t be the one to say anything. He should know I don’t like the beer belly and work on it.
Gerald:
My wife was skinny when we met and ten years later she has gained some weight, and to be honest, I prefer her this size. She is more confident now than when we just met.
Darlene:
I don’t love based on looks, so if he gained weight and is comfortable with it, who am I to complain? However, if it was affecting his health, then both of us would have to work on making him healthier.
