What makes her wife material
IT has been said over and over again that most men will more quickly wed a woman who reminds them of their mothers.
According to a 2010 Cosmopolitan magazine poll among a group of men, some said they were ready to walk down the aisle once they saw that their woman could, among other things, pull off a surprise, play nurse, let loose, wow a crowd, and never lose her cool.
All Woman asked a cross section of Jamaican men, experienced in the dating game, about some of the attributes in a woman that could set off those wedding bells for them.
Anthony, 32, sportscaster:
Wife material is a woman who shows genuine care, not only by asking if you are OK, but doing things to show and ensure that you are. She’s a woman who is willing to ride out the tough times and doesn’t just leave and come back. She’s a woman who a man can look at and say to himself, “That’s my wife or wife-to-be.”
Ruediger, 39, international health and wellness consultant:
For me, it is important to find passion together, helping and supporting each other. So wife material for me needs to have the same values as I have in life. When I look at a woman it is her heart and soul I’m looking at. How is she as a person on the matter of honesty and being loyal? Wife material is a girl who has an inner smile and has found herself, or a girl who wants to find her way in life, having goals that she wants to accomplish, and go after them. Also, a girl who supports me in my own goals. So when it comes to dating, what I look at is her ability to attract my soul and heart. Of course, I may sometimes be looking at her looks as well, but I fall for eyes and intelligence. I try to find that inner glow.
Robert, 41, website content producer:
When they are ready to make compromises, that’s a sign. Also, if they have got past their rebel stage and when you recognise that they know and understand themselves, in my view, a woman is prime for marriage then.
Devvin, 30, driver:
A sign of wife material for me is a woman with ambition, a woman with her own personal life goals. She can’t be flighty and always wants to win every argument; she must know how to choose her battles. Also, a woman who cooks and wants a family, even if it’s one child, is a good sign of someone worthy of being my wife. She should like to party, but I don’t want a woman who wants to party 24/7. Another requirement is good table manners and some sense. She doesn’t have to be a rocket scientist who knows the queen’s English, but she must know that “am” is not short for “I am”. Those are the rules of the game.
David, 30, maintenance engineer:
The first thing I look out for is loyalty, patience, and if she has temperance. I don’t like arrogant females. She must be clean in her surroundings. She doesn’t have to be able to cook, I can teach her to cook. Also, if she is caring, that’s a good sign. Intelligence too, because we must be able to talk together and iron out issues.
Phillip, 54, maintenance officer:
Having been married twice, it’s not all it’s made out to be. There is no such thing as the perfect woman. I used to look out for things that remind me of the nurturing of my own mother. That’s a big mistake. Too many of us men still want to stay on breast milk and expect the women we date to become second mothers. If you want a mother, stay with your own. I’m a simple man. The woman just needs to be decent, smart, willing to share and meet me halfway, love me as much as I love her, and I’m good. All the other things will fall into place if it was meant to be.
Akim, 29, university student:
She takes genuine interest in your personal, emotional, physical and financial well-being. She worries about you more than she worries about herself, and you are similarly concerned about her well-being above your own. She sometimes says “sorry” to end an argument even when she knows you are wrong, and you do likewise. Crucially, it’s the intangible factor where you find yourself hurt when she is, and you are contented as long as she is happy.
