Advice from the wise
It might seem sometimes that your parents are too much into your personal affairs or are trying to control you, but 99 per cent of the time it is because they just don’t want you making the same mistakes they did. CF:Karla:RF: Rohan:
What advice or shared experience from your parents has proven invaluable to you?
My mother got pregnant at age 15 and had to drop out of school. She started her own business and has risen to the top. I saw her success and I was a part of it. Anyway, years ago I started dating this guy and she hated the guy to the core. Every time I was going out, she would argue. I, too, got pregnant at 15. I hid this from my mother for months and when she found out she cried because she tried to warn me not to walk in her footsteps. I have lived to see that same guy deny his child and pretend like we are not a part of his life. I realise now at the age of 27 that our parents are the solutions to our problems and if we just listen, most if not everything that could possibly hurt, won’t.
My mother told me to marry a man who loves me more than I love him because he will adore me. I thought she was crazy, but I now understand. I dated this handsome guy some months ago and it was a total disaster. He knew he was handsome so I was treated as an option. I realised that I was the one with too many feelings invested and not him.
My mother told me never to lead a man on. If I am not interested, I should make it known from day one as men these days will kill you if you play around.
My father told me to find a woman just like my mother and that was the greatest advice. My mother is pure in heart and it is evident in how she was there for my father from day one when he had nothing but a dream. She never, ever asked him for anything material and that was exactly why he gave her the world. I desire a woman just as poised and dedicated to me.
