Extreme measures you’ve taken to find love
IF you ask some people they will tell you that love is like quicksilver — the more you pursue it the faster it seems to elude you. This has caused some to employ novel, clever, and even desperate measures in their pursuit of love.
Below, a few people share with All Woman the extreme measures they’ve taken in hopes of finding happily ever after.
Alan, 29, accountant:
I remember being in love with my now fiancée; she was my colleague at the time and I knew through a friend that her man at the time was cheating on her. Since we were friendly and we were getting close in a way that I could share things with her, I decided that I would build a case against her man with evidence of his infidelity. I did just that, and within weeks they were separated. I made my case over the next few months, and we will be getting married in April of this year.
James, 39, contractor:
I didn’t want to be loved for what I had and could offer to women, so whenever I met women I would always downplay what I had and sell my personality. I am a contractor by profession, but I also own a few items of heavy-duty equipment, a rental company, and three other successful businesses. But because I am a humble person, people don’t know that. I pretend I am a man with a single earning power, and even though I sell my best self, many of the women are turned off because they believe I cannot sustain their lifestyle. I have met a few good women, and I am finally settling with one who has accepted me for who I am. I will eventually share with her the actual details of my financial status.
Jody-Ann, 32, paralegal:
I was eyeing this guy for a long time and I scoped out his chill spots and eventually thought that the gym would be the best place to be. I joined the yoga class first and when he didn’t notice me enough, I decided I was going to the real gym, fully aware of my back problems. Anyway, one evening I invited him over to work out with me, and I was working so hard to impress him that I pulled a lower back muscle. I couldn’t do anything but scream. He got me medical care and started checking in at my house. We got close and he was managing my exercise and all. Long story short, we ended up enjoying many happy years, even though I had to pay a price with my back injury.
Camille, 39, realtor:
I packed up and moved to his country because of the opportunities, and I wanted to be with him and I thought that this was love. So I quit a good-paying job, gave away my furniture, sold my home, and took a leap of faith. Turns out things weren’t so rosy, and after a few months the bliss of new love disappeared. His adolescent children were disrespectful, and they were all untidy, including him. He tried to keep me from finding a job because he wanted to control my independence (luckily I didn’t give him details of my finances); the relationship was just fraught with challenges. I went back to school, set myself up, and moved on after a few years. I will never follow love so blindly again.
Terry, 28, teacher:
I helped my best friend puncture her tyres so that we could get the mechanic who she was head over heels in love with to come and assist. Anyway, he came and they flirted and he said he would take her out. But the whole thing cost her $11,000 in tyres.
Kemar, 37, businessman:
I messaged many different women I found attractive on Facebook, even though I didn’t know if it would work out. My seventh attempt landed me the woman of my dreams. Initially, my friends thought I was crazy, but when it worked out I am sure a few of them tried it too.
