Can you make your relationship side chick proof?
THERE are some women who don’t mind being with men who belong to someone else. These women have no issue with staying on the ‘side’, as a secret, and waiting their turn to be with the man. These are colloquially called ‘side chicks’, and some men love them, much to the despair of the ‘main chicks’. Some people feel that if you treat a man right and the relationship is not lacking then he will remain faithful. Others say that no matter what you do, your relationship can never be side chick-proof. Here is what some of our readers think:
Tamara, 32, in a relationship:
I don’t worry about side chicks. They have their role and I have mine. They stay in their lane and I stay in mine.
Kris, 21, single:
As a woman, you can’t really make a relationship side chick proof. It is really up to the man’s morals and upbringing whether he will remain faithful.
Kesha, 21, in a relationship:
The only way to keep side chicks away is if that man decides he doesn’t want a side chick. You could cater to all his needs, be supportive and all those nice things and that man can still decide to get a side chick. The advice I would give is be with someone who knows what they want (they’re ready to settle down, looking for a serious commitment, etc) and not someone that’s interested in playing games, and thinks that having two babymothers, three children, two girlfriends, a wife, and still troubling Stacey from down the road is ‘#goals’, all while saying “babes a you one mi have”.
Kimone, 26, married:
Maybe be willing to be his fantasy woman every now and again. But I honestly don’t think it’s possible to keep the side chicks away completely, but you if you take care of your man, he will be less likely to cheat.
Chrissy, 37, married:
I don’t believe that is up to you to keep your relationship side chick-proof. A man is going to cheat no matter what you do or don’t do once he wants to. All you have to do is make sure he knows what he has to lose if he steps outside of the relationship and if that is not enough then he wasn’t worth keeping in the first place.
Kamala, 36, single:
Be the best spouse you can be. Tend to the needs of your man. LISTEN to him and care for him like none other can.
James, 25, single:
It depends on whether the man wants a side chick or not. You coulda hot like the sun, spin pon your head in bed, wash his clothes and cook his food, if him ago bun yuh, him ago bun yuh. But women don’t get bun when men are serious about the relationship.
Alexia, 26, engaged:
I feel like it boils down to risk/reward. If they don’t value the relationship and they don’t care about the outcome then cheating can happen. If they value the relationship and know the outcome won’t be that bad, cheating can still happen. But if they really value the relationship and know that the risk of cheating isn’t worth it, then cheating is less likely to happen.
Myesha, 22, committed:
Somewhere deep down inside me I feel a man will always cheat, but in hopes of having a faithful man, I would always keep the relationship spicy. Be adventurous (in a good way, that is) and show your man that he is appreciated.
John, 34, married:
I don’t think there’s anything a woman can do to make a relationship side chick proof. I mean, she can give him all the things he needs as a man, but in the end he has to decide for himself if that’s the type of life he wants to live. He has to decide if what he has at home is worth risking.
— CANDIECE KNIGHT
