13 questions for your Jamaican guy
JAMAICAN men are the biggest schemers, and the dating pool is extra murky. In fact, their behaviours may not have been studied yet, but it seems ingrained in their DNA — that dishonest streak. And so many women who have encountered them have been left emotionally brutalised, as often with the scheming comes gaslighting, in the form of making the women feel that they were in the wrong for not asking the right questions.
When dating a Jamaican man being considered for life partner status, simple questions during the courtship phase won’t do. Indeed, as counsellor Imani Blake says, women have to find ingenious ways of posing the questions to get the true information, since they may just be hit with “but you didn’t ask that”, when the truth finally comes out.
Blake, who is also a content creator, advises that women tweak their questions a bit, in an effort to avoid pain and heartbreak. Here are some questions she suggests asking, early on in the dating process.
1. You say you’re single, but is there anyone who thinks they’re in a relationship with you?
2. When you say that you and your child’s mother live together but don’t share a bed, do you actually share other spaces in the house intimately — like the couch, the floor, the tub?
3. You say you have ‘X’ number of children. Are there any other kids out there in the world who are under the impression that you sired them?
4. When you say you’re separated, does that mean in spirit, or in truth?
5. When you say your ex is crazy, what part did you play in making her that way?
6. When you say that you take care of your child, do you provide at least 50 per cent of what’s required for the child’s total development — social, financial and otherwise, including spending quality time?
7. If the child is a ‘jacket’, have you done anything to prove or disprove this theory?
8. When you say you’re single, does this apply only to this jurisdiction? Or are there potential love interests not living in Jamaica?
9. Do you have any hidden talents or quirky skills that include being able to tell tall tales even when there’s evidence?
10. Can you share a challenging experience in your last relationship and how you dealt with it?
11. Are you married? Does any woman out there have evidence that she’s married to you?
12. When you say you’re divorced, is that in a legally recognised way, done through a court of law?
13. How do you handle conflicts in a relationship? What would be your response, say, if a woman cheated?
“Don’t be caught making the mistake that so many women do, to believe what is said on the surface,” Blake said. “I’ve seen too many cases where women get bamboozled, simply because they didn’t understand the special species of man they were dealing with.”
