So you have a good job, your friends are dope and your family couldn’t be more perfect. Most things in your life are going great…and here comes your ex sliding into your DMs with a basic ‘hi, how are you?’ Suddenly your world has shifted on its axis and you lose your equilibrium.

Most people have

that one ex who still makes them catch their breath. The breakup may not have

been easy and, truth be told, at times he does cross your mind. You covertly

follow him on social media but with the passage of time, you did not expect

that popup, especially since he was the one who broke your heart.

So after staring

at the message for the umpteenth time, what are you going to do? Should you answer

or ignore it?

Baby girl, let

the past stay in the past. A wise man once said ‘Do not look back as you are

not going in that direction’. He is an ex for a reason and if he broke your

heart that’s reason enough to keep it moving. Unless he’s completely reformed,

which is unlikely, he is liable to repeat mistakes of the past; and the last

thing you want to be known as is a ‘mistake ’.

People don’t change

overnight and even with time, people rarely change unless they make a conscious

and concerted effort to do so. Chances are he’s reaching out to see if you are

still weak to him, maybe just curious to see how you are or found some old photos

and was nostalgic. Just ensure that you are not also feeling nostalgic and travelling

down memory lane as we tend to only remember the good times when we are cruising

on that high way. So when you get that call from your ex…just block it.