Improve your sex life with these easy tips
YOU may have heard before that the key to great or better sex is more regularity, new positions and the like, but sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill says the true answer lies in balancing masculine and feminine polarity in sexual intercourse.
“For electricity to flow from a battery, its positive and negative poles must connect to a device,” Dr McGill told All Woman.
“Sexual polarity follows the same concept where strong sexual attraction occurs naturally between a man and woman as two opposite poles — masculine and feminine poles. A man typically tends to operate within his masculine polarity of hunger for release during sexual intercourse; the woman on the other hand tends to operate within her feminine polarity of relishing the process of love play and enjoying release as icing on the cake.”
He said the concept has been explored and written about by David Dieda, author of the books, The Way of the Superior Man and It’s a Guy thing, An Owner’s Manual for Women, which states that the feminine needs the masculine to give it direction, focus and purpose, while the masculine needs the energy of the feminine to give it drive and passion. The masculine and the feminine need each other — the man typically gives and the woman typically receives in the give and take of love play.
Courtney Small, self-professed Casanova, says once there is no holding back, and both partners are willing to give everything in the bedroom, then that alone will improve a couple’s love life.
“Once it’s somebody you can trust to keep certain things between the two of you, then you can let go and just let anything be anything in the bedroom,” Small declared. “But it has to be somebody who is willing to be herself and not leave everything up to you.”
Said Dr McGill: “Don’t be pathologically stuck in the feminine polarity because you are female, or in the masculine polarity because you are male.”
Instead, he advised couples to:-
* Be authentic in the relationship
* Be conscious of your partner’s changing moods and desires.
* Keep the relationship dynamic by getting out of your comfort zone when it comes to sexual pleasuring of your partner (and yourself).
* If the woman feels like taking charge of the activities she should not hesitate to actively direct the process while being on top.
* The man should intentionally submit to her being in charge.
* Switch sexual roles without fear in the new year.
