My girl’s a Peeping Tom
Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell said when a woman searches her man’s phone, it is a case where she experiences a sense of insecurity in the relationship and feels the need to keep a close watch on her spouse to ensure her emotional security and well-being.
Women say it’s a form of protection — what better way to tell what he’s up to, than to browse through his recent calls and texts?
And the men will tell you that it’s one of the most irritating breaches of privacy they could experience.
See their responses to their women’s Peeping Tom behaviour below:
Ricardo, 25:
I don’t hide anything from her. She knows the passwords to all my social media accounts and I don’t even have a password on my phone. I have nothing to hide though but it just shows that there are weak points in the relationship. It is disappointing when she searches the phone and there’s no basis.
John, 32:
If I come home in a bad mood but just remain silent so as not to take out my anger on her, she thinks I don’t want to talk to her, gets paranoid, and as soon as I go to have a shower she goes through my phone, laptop, wallet, everything. I don’t know what she’s looking for, and if she finds anything, what it will solve or how it would make her feel. All I know is it simply tells me she doesn’t trust me and that to me is comparable to her leaving.
Anthony, 42:
It’s something that’s puzzling and forever will be puzzling. Say I am cheating and you see it, what does it solve? Can you handle what you will see? Nothing can stay hidden. If he’s cheating, your womanly instincts will tell you but don’t sift through my phone.
Dane, 36:
I wish she wouldn’t, but she does. It’s annoying and it’s more than not understanding why she does it. I don’t give her reason to but she does. It’s almost like she’s waiting for me to slip up.
Allan, 33:
I think it’s disrespect. I hate it. What do you want to see? If he’s cheating it’s likely he’ll erase the evidence if it comes to his phone. It’s beyond me why women do it. I really couldn’t tell you.
Horace, 45:
It’s something to laugh about. Why? Imagine if what she suspected is what she saw? What would she do? Tear out her hair? Cry all day long? Confront me? Come on, searching is pointless and men are often disappointed when their women do it. You must know what you’ve gotten into. Why get involved with someone who has the potential to cheat? And if you think he’s pretending, don’t enter the relationship. Never leave anything to chance.
