Once I got married…
Coupling up is a great thing — when you find that someone to have and to hold till death, life going forward is an eternal duet.?Things that I had to start doing…Andrew, 37:
This pairing, of course, means that you both will have to abandon some of the practices you had as singles, and while many people know the obvious ones — like forsaking all others — not many think of the little things they’ll have to stop once they couple up.
Adrian, 38:
We both had to agree not to go to bed angry.
Rohan, 34:
I had to stop sweating the small stuff; to me trivial things didn’t matter anymore.
Diana, 40:
We had to stop arguing, especially in front of the children. That is not the kind of home we wish for our children to grow up in and so we each have had to choose our battles. It’s the funniest thing, we could be having an argument and you wouldn’t even know it just by looking at us.
Shanice, 37:
We had to stop wanting things our own way all the time. I have had to learn how to compromise. I can’t just be thinking of me all the time.
Marcia, 39:
Once I got married I didn’t have to look as good as I did before. Mind you, mi nuh look pop-down, but it’s just that I don’t have to try as hard as I did to look good now compared to when I was trying to get a husband. Now I can go to bed in my big T-shirt and my head wrap up in my kerchief. My ring is my insurance policy.
Robert, 42:
I lived alone for many years. Once I got married I couldn’t leave skid marks in the toilet anymore. My wife absolutely hates it.
I had to make a special effort to ensure that I tell my wife that I love her every day. I really do want her to feel loved.
Patrick, 44:
I have had to acknowledge the fact that even though we are a unit, my partner is still an individual. I have had to learn how to respect her as her own person and allow her enough space to grow.
Samantha, 32:
Because it is now two of us, and one on the way, we have had to be more conscious when it comes to our spending. A few years ago we would go to parties and so on, but now we just find creative ways of enjoying our own company.
Evette, 38:
I have had to stop talking to some of my girlfriends. Many of them were just too negative; I guess that’s why they are not married now. But seriously, people tried to tear us apart through spreading rumours and gossiping. I wanted my marriage to last and so I had to say bye-bye to those so-called friends.
Monique, 32:
I have actually had to learn how to cook. I am not afraid to say it, but I didn’t know how to cook before I met my husband. But since the ring, all of a sudden I am a pro in the kitchen.
