Would you date someone who was already married?
What if he told you he was separated and in the process of getting a divorce? What if he said there was no love lost between him and his wife, and they were just together because of the kids? What if he said things were complicated, and they were sharing a house and nothing else?
Dating someone who’s married is a definite moral no-no, but the lines become blurred when the marriage is allegedly on the rocks and you’re the go-between when he’s on the path to separation. Or should you be? Would you date someone who was already married, if he promised that his marriage was ending soon?
Lorraine, 47:
I’ve done it. I felt justified because his wife was living overseas and he said it was a business marriage. I did everything for him, with the expectation that once he got his papers they would get a divorce. Well, he left to join her and they subsequently had a child together. My biggest regret was that I let him into my life and let him be a father to my son, who was devastated when he left.
Pauline, 43:
Been there, done that. Having an affair with a married man is not all that it is made out to be. If you are a young woman I would advise against it. Most men just want sex and so you have to be careful not to get emotionally involved. But although we are not together now, I think I would do it again. For me that relationship helped me grow leaps and bounds.
Diana, 39:
I am a very jealous woman and so I can tell you from the get-go that it wouldn’t work. I don’t share my man. He would have to be willing to give me more attention than her and I don’t think that he could because he would have made a commitment to his wife.
Jazmine, 30:
Sure. For one, I would have no responsibility — no house to clean and no children to take care of. Once mi a get mi money mi good.
Debra, 39:
Hell no. It’s too much responsibility. I would always have to be on my Ps and Qs ensuring that no one sees us. That kind of relationship would be too restrictive. We couldn’t be open as a couple; we would always have to been hiding in secret, everything hush hush. If you’re my man, you’re my man, full stop.
Gabrielle, 27:
Never say never. Divorces take a long time so if he says it’s over, then I think it’s reasonable to give him a certain amount of trust.
