How did you manage to keep the romance going after having kids?

They’re cute and all, but when they come, their demands often supersede all others, and many times romance suffers.

Many couples will admit that when children come along most of their energy is directed at the kids instead of to their partners, which can put a strain on the union. Being able to juggle the two takes work, as the readers below share.

Marcia, 43:

Children or no children, my husband and I continue to do the same things we used to do before they came along, mind you to a lesser extent. But we still try to keep the fire burning.

Angela, 39:

Raising children, especially nowadays, can be quite taxing. And so we have to make a conscious decision when it comes to keeping the fire burning. If it is even our anniversary alone that we get to go out, we try to make it happen. Even with a limited budget, we try to make it happen.

Richard, 40:

My wife and I never stopped dating, even after we got married, even after we had children. We always set aside time, at least once a month so that we can go somewhere nice.

Clive, 42:

I have to be practical when it comes to this. Every opportunity I get, my wife and I ship them off. Class trip, Christmas trip, to the country! I’m always the first to suggest that they go look for their aunty in the country!

Rebecca, 37:

That’s what grandmas are for, bless her heart, she always willing to take them off our hands.

Laurette, 39:

We organise for babysitters. We still do spur of the moment things like candlelight dinners. I still write him love notes and slip them in his pants pocket or if I know that he is going away on a trip I will put a thong in his luggage, just to give him something to remember me by.