Baby, I want to wait…
Earlier this week we shared the story of Ruth and Christopher Prendergast, who extolled the value of waiting until marriage for intimacy. The couple listed various benefits, and saw their decision to wait as one of the key reasons their marriage has prospered.
Not many people agree with these values; indeed some, even Christians, insist on not buying ‘puss in bag’, and on intimacy before they tie the knot. What would you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend insisted on waiting for marriage?
Clive, 27:
I would respect their decision. I am a Christian and share similar values and so it wouldn’t be hard for me to accept their choice. It would actually be a relief if she brought it up first, so I wouldn’t be the one to say I didn’t want to engage in any sexual activity until marriage.
Theo, 30:
I don’t know if that could work for me. I would just have to be honest with them from the get go and let them know my expectations of the relationship. Hopefully we could come to some middle ground where we could both agree and hopefully I could end up getting some!
Ryan, 38:
I honestly would want to find out why. I would put myself in her shoes. But ultimately I would have to lay my cards on the table and let her know my stance on the matter. Something that crucial, if not talked about from early on, will lead to problems down the road.
Abi Gail, 40:
That’s admirable, however, I don’t agree with it. At my age I need some TLC, the whole package, sex and all. If we can’t come to a decision we would part at that point as friends.
Diane, 32:
It depends how long we are in the relationship for. If I know for sure that I was going to end up marrying him then sure I would wait until marriage. However, if not, then I would want to break up. For me to hold out so long with no promise of a ring in the end would be frustrating.
