The art of seduction

Coming home should be something your guy looks forward to, and whatever the mood, whatever the issue going on in your lives, intimacy should not be put on the back burner.

What do you do in situations when you’re unable to give him your all — like during pregnancy and at that time of the month? Intimacy means connecting with your partner, and nothing should break that bond.

We’re not implying that patience isn’t a virtue, and that it’s hard for a man to wait a few days or a few months for you to get back in the swing of things, but instead of leaving him to his own devices, you can still help.

“Be authentic in the relationship and be conscious of your partner’s changing desires,” Sex Therapist Dr Sidney McGill said.

“Keep the relationship dynamic by getting out of your comfort zone when it comes to sexual pleasuring of your partner and yourself.”

So:

1. Get creative with your hands

These can come in quite handy at this time. Use your hands to tease and please him. This is one way of ensuring fulfilment.

2. Talk naughty

Talk dirty to each other and turn each other on with steamy words. Don’t underestimate the power of the prose in achieving what the body cannot.

3. Try sexting

Send him a picture in that hot lingerie just to remind him of what he has to look forward to. Send him naughty messages about what you would love to do with him as soon as you’re able.

4. Please him

Let the experience be all about him. A heated kiss, followed by light kisses over his body, ending in his pleasure zone, is sure to do him well.

5. Bring out the massage oil

A sensuous massage is a great way to connect with your partner. Take the time to oil and pamper him, touching and caressing the right spot. Adding soft kisses to the mix will work wonders.

6. Watch adult movies together

For those who have no hang –ups, cuddling up in bed and watching one of these may help to relieve sexual tension and get you both closer together.