Men: How cheating strengthens my relationship
LIKE Iva Louise, a mistress for 40 years who holds the view that men who are given the freedom to roam will never leave their wives for other women, there are a few men who view infidelity as an avenue to strengthen their relationships.
Below they tell All Woman why.
Dave H, 35:
Cheating is my stress release. No one is perfect and my woman isn’t either. Sexually, I want more than what she’s offering, but apart from that she satisfies every other aspect of my life. So instead of being frustrated and causing fights daily, I find someone who will experiment. The end result is that we’re all happy. Constant arguments will weaken relationships, so when I’m satisfied, I have more time to meet her other needs instead of wasting time arguing and trying to make up.
Rory L, 39:
When I cheated on my girlfriend I felt very guilty and started treating her better. I care about her and I realised how easily I could have lost something good, so I pulled up my socks.
Damion H, 27:
It allowed me to think about the prospect of losing her or keeping her. It doesn’t mean I will continue cheating, it was one mistake that made me think about what I really want and how I should operate to be a good man. Since then, I’ve learnt to appreciate her flaws and shortcomings and work towards being happy with her.
Corey B, 40:
When I cheat it’s second nature for me to treat my woman better by pampering her and being more open to compromise. What I find is that during this ‘make up’ time, I understand her more and cherish the moments more.
Rudolph M, 51:
When you cheat, you are more likely to do good things for your woman to cover the act. But these actions and the extra affection can make you grow closer to your wife and love her more.
Adrian A, 45:
When I cheated we went to counselling and it opened the doors of self-examination. We grew from the trauma of an affair, and we were able to heal emotional wounds that stemmed from our childhoods to be able to go forward as adults and lead happier lives.
