Her back-up man
WOMEN are natural planners, always having a back-up plan just in case plan A doesn’t work out. For many, this type of planning happens in their relationships too, where they don’t rely on one partner only to see them through thick and thin. The rationale?
Paula 40, married:
He’s there for security reasons. Nothing lasts forever and for me, if my marriage breaks apart, I want to know that my needs can be easily met.
Kay-Ann 25, single:
I have a plan B to show my main man that he is not irreplaceable. Whether or not my main man finds out about plan B, I feel good within myself knowing that if my main relationship ends, I will not curl up and die.
Shauna-Ann 35, married:
I’m big on companionship and having a partner. Anything can happen to my current man. Things can go sour. I have to secure all bases.
Tara 49, married:
I have a plan B, C, D and E. What should happen to me if he leaves tomorrow? All that glitters is not gold, but it’s not so much a financial security issue, it’s knowing you have options and letting him know too so he will stay in line. Your other plans make your partner know that he has competition regardless of the marital status so he’d better keep up his game or get kicked to the kerb.
Karen 50, married
Absolutely necessary. My plan B is there for one purpose — if the current plan goes bad, I have something to fall back on. It’s almost like not putting all your eggs in one basket or all your money in one bank. Anything can happen, you have to have an alternative.
Sandra 30, single:
My plan B is that guy who is the best friend, cry pillow, the one you know you can call on no matter what and he’ll come running. While he might not be plan A, he’s not far from it. So if A slips, B can come right in. I keep plan B just so A knows I won’t put up with foolishness and as I said, if A walks away, B just takes his place.
Mellissa 45, married:
I tend to trust my instincts and many times I can tell if my relationship is on the rocks and needs work. But plan B is there just in case there’s no more working on to do and it’s time to go. Whenever my husband and I have a fight, I have a go-to brethren whom I just pour out my soul to — my plan B — and my husband knows that if he messes up real terribly that’s who is most likely to replace him.
Janet 33, single:
Many times when relationships fail women find themselves crying in their pillows, sulking away and slipping into a depressed state. If they had a plan B, they would just utilise it.
