When the sex is bad
So you prepared all day for a long night of passion with your partner and within five minutes of the act, you flopped — no time to enjoy the moment, no time to whisper sweet nothings, and most importantly, no time to guarantee your partner the big O.
What do you do in that situation? How do you make up for bad sex?
Ricardo, 25:
The fact is, sex won’t always be great. Your partner might want to experience a marathon while your goal might just be to get a release. If I’m on the side of blame and the differences in expectations offend my partner, I firstly ask how I can make it up then grant the wish. It usually is to buy a pair of shoes, or do something romantic like make dinner, send her a gift or just a special note.
Clement, 40:
I make up for bad sex with make up sex, especially if it leaves her upset at me. They say that’s the best form. So that’s what I do.
Bernadette, 27:
When it’s my fault I may initiate certain things throughout the day so he knows I want to go for it again. Usually, I’ll drop hints, send flirty texts, or just lounge around the house in lingerie.
Germaine, 28:
Every encounter won’t be stellar and certainly won’t earn you a platinum award or the title of stud of the year, but call a spade a spade, know when you’re mediocre and fix it. I will take her out and try to be more romantic. If the relationship is long term you will know what pleases your partner. Play on those things and leave her smiling.
Ann- Marie, 35:
Sometimes I’m at fault. I may tell him to stop because my head hurts or I can’t be bothered and it equates to bad sex. In that case I’ll cook him a nice plate of food, and pamper him. When he messes up sometimes I’ll make it up too and initiate a lot of things I know will be pleasurable.
Reginald, 46:
If sex was bad I try to initiate romance the next time. I can usually tell by the expression on her face or if she turns her back after, asks whether I’m finished, or bypasses the infamous pillow talk. The next time around the romance will mean having my mind at ease, prolonging a heated conversation and longer foreplay sessions. My wife enjoys kissing so I find creative ways for her to get pleasure from it.
Nicole, 36:
They say the way to a man’s heart is his stomach. If I got him upset at something I did to kill the vibe in the bedroom I cook for him and try to make the meal no less than a three course.
Shauna, 30:
More sex. It’s simple, if it was a flopped show based off my actions, I just find a way to get him in my corner and surprise him.
