So your ex is dating someone else…
Sure, you two broke up; but surely you didn’t expect him to move on so fast. How do you react to him dating someone else, especially when you’re still not over him?
Denecia Green, author of Lies, Sex & Betrayal, shares four reasons why you shouldn’t freak out.
1. It’s a rebound relationship
If your ex starts to date someone else immediately after breaking up with you then it’s definitely a rebound relationship, so there is no need to freak out. A rebound relationship is your ex’s way of filling that void that is associated with getting over you. It doesn’t usually last long because they rush into things too soon and things get too serious really quickly. The most important thing for you to do is to be cool about his rebound girl. It’s only a matter of time before he realises that a rebound relationship cannot fill the emptiness and will end the relationship.
2. You are given an opportunity to meet someone new
Let’s be honest with ourselves, not every relationship decision you have made has been a healthy one. Some of you know from the beginning that the person is wrong for you but instead of letting go, you make sacrifices, compromises, put up a fight and stay well beyond the time you should in a relationship that doesn’t truly make you happy. In these instances, your ex moving on to someone else is probably one of the best things that could happen to you because you didn’t have the courage to do it. Use this time to mingle and meet new people. You just may attract someone who shares your values and tastes in life.
3. An opportunity to evaluate yourself
Being single gives you an opportunity to evaluate yourself, recognise your mistakes and take responsibility. Take a step back, assess various issues you had in the relationship, question yourself and determine if you could have handled the situations differently. Use the time to improve bad habits and get back in touch with the core of who you are. Try to better understand the things you want versus what you need in a relationship before you go on a rant about what a cold hearted, non-human your ex was, or start hating on his new girl for no apparent reason. Use the time to become more comfortable with yourself. You invite happiness in your life when you exude self-satisfaction and confidence.
4. Gives you freedom
You no longer have to worry about the other person, no more obligations, no more sacrificing things you love to make your partner happy. Unfortunately, sometimes in relationships we tend to neglect spending as much time as we would like with our friends and family for the sake of an argument free/ peaceful life with our spouses. With this break from a relationship, you get a chance to reconnect with your friends and loved ones and have as much fun as you desire.
