How to get your man back
It’s never over till it’s over, and if you truly believe that your now ex is your soulmate, careful planning and a few strategic moves could make him yours again.
Below, Sex Lies and Betrayal author Denecia Green shares three steps for winning your ex back in no time.
1.GIVE YOURSELF SPACE
If you are constantly around your ex, it is much harder for you to get a clear perspective on what went wrong. Though you don’t have to ignore him, you shouldn’t go out of your way to contact him. Remain low key on contact especially via social network. Give yourself space and do some soul searching. Before you try to win your ex back, it is also important for you to figure out if he is a prize worth winning. Think about issues that may have resulted in the relationship ending. Was it due to incompatibility or bad timing? If you are incompatible then your time and effort could be very well spent elsewhere. Were you too moody, clingy, too distant and too flirtatious with others? Be honest with yourself and think about how you may be able to change that dynamic.
You should only try to win your ex back if you think you can make things different if given a second chance.
2. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
This is the part where most people screw up. After a break up, some women tend to give up in the looks department. You stay home and get miserable or depressed for months. While you need time to grieve after a break up, at some point you have to go out there and do something with your life. The no contact period is useless unless you try to make a positive change in your life during this time. This is the point where you are to be extra everything. Groom yourself; get your hair and nails done; treat yourself to a new outfit. Whatever you decide to do, just don’t let it be anything drastic, for example tattooing his name or getting piercings that you may regret later in life.
3.MAKE A MOVE
If you have carefully got through the first two steps and believe that you are ready to win him back, then the next step is to make a move. Suggest a short, low key meet up. Be casual in all of your interactions. Try not to get emotional or ask questions to obtain closure. When conversing, start fresh like you are dating him for the first time again. However, don’t allow yourself to become carried away. Keep in mind reasons why the relationship didn’t work the first time and look for clues as to whether things would be different now. For example, if you broke up because he partied too hard or got drunk often, then notice how he talks about his nightlife or how he handles his drink on the date. If all is going well then find a way to make subtle physical contact and watch how he reacts. That way you will determine if the romantic connection is still present.
If you’re still getting a good response, then the cards are in your favour. But if he is resisting your advances, ignoring you or downright being mean to you, then there is no need to pursue the relationship. Remember that not every relationship can be salvaged. You’ve done your best and can applaud yourself for trying. Walk away with your head high and never look back.
