I stopped loving you when…
ONE of the most painful experiences in life is loving someone who doesn’t love you back, or loving someone who loved you once, then stopped. As much as you try to get over your feelings, you’ll probably hold on to emotions for a long time. But then there comes a time when you pummel your way through the love haze — it may take months, even years, but you get there.
Below, readers tell All Woman about that lightbulb moment.
Rochelle:
I let go totally when I allowed myself to go through the raw emotions I was feeling and stopped bottling them in. After the crying, isolation and drama I had to find things that would take my mind off him, and even then I still didn’t let go. I really cut him off when he attempted to befriend me with the same intentions as when we were together. Right there I realised that though our situations changed he was still the same con artist and that’s when I could truly say it was over. A leopard never changes its spots.
Simone:
I stopped loving him when he cheated, and though this might sound shallow, he also got too bulky as a result of his addiction to exercising, which was unattractive. And how could I forget — he wasn’t doing anything with his life.
Bianca:
I knew when I could see the faults previously pointed out by my friends and family. Love is blind and it will blind you if you let it. When I was able to truly assess his actions and ways, I knew I had moved on emotionally .
Jolene:
I no longer missed him, his calls, or thought about him. Neither did my blood boil when anyone mentioned him or I saw him.
Leah:
There was a song we both enjoyed and I couldn’t bear to hear it being played or see people enjoy it. The day when it came on the radio and I started dancing at work and really having fun listening to a very wonderful song without even remembering him, is when I knew I had really stopped loving my ex-boyfriend. Glory, glory!
Roger:
She got married and I sincerely wished her a happy life. As much as I tried, I couldn’t resent her or be angry as I usually was. I realised right there that when I stopped loving her and let her go I felt at peace with myself.
Ricardo:
I grudgingly watched her fall in love with someone else and it was when I left the country to study elsewhere and saw more people, diverse backgrounds, and my eyes were open to far more, that I realised I no longer loved this girl.
Francis:
When it didn’t matter that she no longer responded to texts or answered calls, and at that point I had stopped calling and visiting as well.
MG:
I realised I made the wrong choice. I didn’t like him anymore. I didn’t see us together in the future, because he had several problems that needed therapy and divine intervention. He cheated, lied; cheated, lied; cheated and lied.
AM:
When he became a jerk, inconsiderate and started acting foolish. For someone who had a responsible and loving character in the past, he started wasting money, gambling, being inconsiderate about my feelings and forgetting how much I was there for him.
VC:
When we had a disagreement and he changed the locks on the doors of the house. I definitely stopped loving him at that point in time, not only for doing it, but for not telling me.
VM:
He told me he wanted to break up the day after I lost my job. He said he did not have time for me and my problems, and when he said that, I stopped loving him.
